After 19 Years of Marriage, Man Discovers That His Wife Used to Be A Man


A Belgian man is seeking to have his marriage annulled after discovering that his Indonesian wife of 19 years had been born a man. The man, only named as Jan, married Monica, his family’s former nanny in a previous marriage, in 1993 despite legal difficulties raised by the Belgian immigration authorities. But it was only in recent weeks that he discovered that his wife had originally been a man and had undergone a s*x change.

“I feel I’ve been assaulted,” he said. “I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway.

“I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits.” Jan, 64, said that he and his wife had decided not to have children because he had two by his previous marriage and she fooled him by pretending to menstruate, using sanitary towels, “to conceal the truth”. “Even during s*x, I never noticed anything,” he said.

For many years the couple lived a normal family life and Monica, 48, was like a “big sister” to his children until their marriage started to come under strain when she got a new full-time job.

“Monica began to change very much,” he said. “My oldest son saw her sometimes at a nightclub. She began to wear very flashy clothes, those ultra-short skirts or tiny tops, so her abdomen was completely exposed.” Finally rumors began to surface and after Jan found “amorous messages” from other men on her computer, he confronted her in a violent row that led to the police being called. “A friend told me that he had heard that Monica was actually a s*x-changed man. I could not believe it. My son heard similar rumors,” he said.

“I pushed her against the wall and said: Now I know the truth. Are you a man? She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on. She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man.

My world collapsed. That evening we came to blows. The police came.” Jan, who is undergoing psychiatric treatment following the discovery, has started legal proceedings to have the marriage annulled but the Belgian courts have so far refused to allow him to turn her out of the family home.

“That person has deliberately deceived him for years, even scammed. Presumably she has also forged documents used here to get a residence permit. The children, who for years have lived with her, are devastated,” said his Liliane Verjauw, his lawyer.


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  1. Dis world is really really scaring but am still doubting is not possible

  2. I thank God, I am a woman, its obvious that women are better than men.
    Advice to all men,
    Go and change ur s*x identity.

  3. How are we sure the man is never aware of his wife’s former s*x? I believe he only became jealous and unsafe when the dude started dating other men.

  4. @ the s*x process I believe the man should know that she is a he(man) so they must be gay he knows he’s seing another man and he’s jealous on that ok thankzzzzz

  5. First maureen if you have ever tested to be a man for complete 60 seconds i assured you, you woun’t even realize when you throw away every woman hood around you,

    but for the woman is not that she is a full man and went for operations, rather she was born shemale so due to the v**gina has already became the main organ so her people now decided cut off the male organ at early stage because she can not grow with two organs it does happen is never an abormination.

  6. Its very possible. I remember when I was growing, my chest started developing, and one was bigger than the other, it was a worry that I have to visit many hospital, then, a Doctor told me there is possibility of me growing full chest, and in that case I will have to travel to another town and start a new life as a female, I thought that’s because I may not be able to raise money for operation like Monica. We never know what’s her/his case. There are also “she-male”. They are real!

  7. People should not just start commenting rubbish, this forum is to aqua re knowledge. There are she-male, if u are that she-male will u wish to live a lonely life where u will not be able to associate with men because of ur full grown chest neither associate with women because u have a male organ? Definitely, surgery is the answer so that u can choose a s*x to belong, and it is easier to operate male organ than operating the 2 chest, because even the shape will be feminine. Search and see what such appearance looks like and stop thinking gay or some other unreasonable things

  8. From my understanding this was his former nanny and he divorced his wife for her. I bet his ex- wife saying, ” what goes around come back around.”

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