9 Red Flags Women Shouldn’t Ignore When Picking a Mate

Surely, I am not suggesting that women should dis every man they meet while waiting for some perfect guy who doesn’t exist. But I do think everyone has someone out there who is perfect for them, and settling for less serves no one. When you decide to leave someone because of red flags, it doesn’t mean that person isn’t worthy of love. It just means that they probably have some serious work to do before they can be in a meaningful relationship with you or anyone else.

Here are a few red flags that you may discover in the first few dates, or well into the relationship. Either way, don’t ignore them. Doing so can lead to a relationship that will never truly be what you want or deserve.

1. He has no vision for his future. Proverbs 29:18 tells us, “where there is no vision, the people perish.” If your hope is to one day start a family with someone, that person needs to have a vision for themselves. If they don’t have a personal vision, how can they create a vision for your family?

2. He’s way too clingy. In my humble opinion, there is nothing cute about being with a mate that is way too clingy. Clinginess is typically a sign of a man who is either a bit possessive or insecure. Either way, it’s a sign you shouldn’t ignore.

3. He’s a little too private. There is nothing wrong with being a bit private when you first start dating someone, but if the person you are dating seems too private (like you know nothing about their family and you’ve never been to their home), you should be concerned. People who seem like they have something to hide usually have something to hide.

4. He talks down to you. There really is no way around this one. If a man talks down to you and makes you feel like you don’t matter, run in the other direction.

5. You feel isolated. You should never feel like a relationship is keeping you away from your friends and family. You should feel like your mate is adding to your life, not intentionally taking people away from it.

6. He doesn’t respect your values. It’s never a good sign if you feel like the person you are dating is trying to convince you to do anything that isn’t in line with what you value. Your values are part of the deal, so if he has a problem with them, he should keep it moving.

7. He doesn’t fight fair. It’s normal for couples to have disagreements and sometimes they can even turn into fights, but fighting dirty is never cool. If your mate always fights dirty, bringing up things you told him about your past, cursing you out, and intentionally trying to hurt you, he has serious communication issues and will probably always hit below the belt when you fight.

8. He tells his mother everything. We all want a man who respects and loves his mother. What we don’t want is a “mama’s boy” that runs and tells his mother every intimate detail of his life. That is more drama than any woman should have to deal with.

9. You have a strange gut feeling. Ladies, we have to stop ignoring our gut. When your gut tells you that the person you are with isn’t right for you, just listen. Your gut feeling is really God’s whisper. Don’t ignore it.

Source: candidbelle.com