The 6 REAL Reasons People Flirt

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Here are six different kinds of motivation for flirting:

1. Sex: flirting to get someone to sleep with you

2. Fun: flirting as a sport

3. Exploring: flirting as relationship practice

4. Relational: flirting to increase intimacy

5. Esteem: flirting to increase one’s own self-worth

6. Instrumental: flirting to get something from another person
There’s a huge difference between being charming and flirting.

If you have charm, you’re trying to make everyone feel important. If you flirt, you’re using your sexual attractiveness to manipulate another person, sometimes in innocuous ways and other times in kind of creepy ways.

Both charmers and flirters make eye contact and have warmth in their voice, but flirters almost always have an agenda, such as getting their accounting instructor to change their grade, or flirting their way out of getting a ticket.