This morning, Nollywood star actress, Foluke Daramola sent out these insightful marriage nuggets through Blackberry Messenger. What’s more, she proffers solutions to the problems she enunciated. Read below and share your thoughts…
God ordained marriage to be a blissful union, but when it is not adequately handled with care it could rub one of his or her destiny. Wrong way of handling relationship in marriage has led to the downfall of many marriages. In fact, most people have forgotten that marriage is a love-affair, a lifestyle relationship. These are what we engaged in that can mar one’s marriage:-
1. Olympic Spirit. Olympic spirit is the spirit of competition. It has crept into many marriages where couples who are supposed to work as partners are working as rivals. Lovers now work as foes. They compete about building their own houses, buying cars and about winning the love of their children.
Solution: you are partners, don’t compete. You are lovers, don’t fight. You are companions, work in unity. Don’t ever see each other as competitors but as companions.
2. Lovelessness. Husbands are commanded by God to love their wives and not be bitter against them. “Husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them”. Colossians 3:19. Love for your wife should be deep in your heart. When you allow her love to depart, you are making room for a difficult marriage.
Solution: Love your wife and don’t compare her with to any other woman. Verbalize the love. Tell her “I love you” often. Show the love to her by getting her gifts and give her your undivided attention.
3. Disunity. Not walking as one, no fondness, divided house is the end result of so many negative things in marriage. United we stand, divided we fall. There is no place this saying is more true than in marriage.
Solution: Walk in love, walk as one. Stand together, stand as one. Stand in unity. Join your hands together, join your mind also. Have the same voice, the same vision, the same focus and the same destination.