48-year-old Florence ltianu resident at 4, Kaka Street, Agege, has pleaded with a Lagos Grade ‘A’ Customary Court sitting in Agege to dissolve her 12-year-old marriage over battery, threat to life and lack of care.
The defendant in the case, Donatus however said his mother-in-law turned herself into his wife in his house, and that he said was the beginning of his crisis.
“I know I married two women, mother and daughter”, the husband said.
“The first four years of my marriage was sweet, but trouble began when my second wife (mother-in-law) started living in my house.”
The wife on her part said, “I have been managing the marriage. I have been smiling outside and shedding secret tears, all because I don’t want to leave my husband because of my children.”
“Since the inception of the marriage, I have been the head of the home because my husband is so stingy and won’t part with any money unless it is stolen from him. ”I have been responsible for the house rent, feeding, children school fees and other expenses in the house.
“All my husband does is to sit down early in the morning and be expecting food to walk in on its own to his table. I would not have thought of leaving him if not for the beating I do receive from him. He beats me any time he asks for money and I refuse, he nags and complains a lot, he talks like the parrot and has been threatening to kill me.
I know him. Whenever he is angry, he can misbehave and would not mind the consequence. I want to live for my children. I am fed up. I have heard a lot of stories of husbands killing their wives, I do not want to fall a victim,” she advised the court not to give room for reconciliation because, according to her, “it cannot work.”
Florence urged the court to dissolve the marriage and grant her custody of the children. Donatus denied the allegations. He told the court that his mother-in-law had been the source of the crisis in his home. ”I am a gentle man, I love my wife and kids, but my problem is my mother-in-law who controls my home”, he said.
“My mother-in-law has been staying with us for the past eight years. The first four years of my marriage was sweet, but trouble began when my second wife (my mother-in-law) came, and started living in my house.”
The 52 year- old- man told the court that he was ready to be responsible if his mother-in-law left the house for them. The court asked the respondent to improve his relationship with his wife and see if the situation will change, while Florence should bring her mother to court at the next hearing. The case was adjourned till January 29, 2013.