The faces of Nigerian gays

One after the other, Nigerians who indulged in homosexuality with impunity narrate how they eventually opted for this illicit romantic escapade CHARLES ADINGUPU writes that as the government tries to clip their wings, they hid under veil of fundamental human right.

James Onuoha (real names withheld) a banker, is a product of both Western influences and the traditional cultures of Nigeria. Academically, he’s a Western, having acquired his first and second degrees in financial management in an American university at his prime. But emotionally, he is swayed by age old superstition and the traditions of his people.

When the time comes for him to get married, James bowed to family pressures, and chooses a girl from among his own Ibos, leaving his mistress of many years behind in Lagos. But the lucky bride, Obiagali, whom he finally chooses, is tied to the apron string of the primitive curse of the village gods. Undeterred by this chilling discovery, James, together with his wife to be, agreed to go through a curious and sinister ritual to secure her release so that they can marry. Ironically, at the climax of the purification exercise to extricate Obiagali from the grip of the village gods, she died in a mysterious circumstance.

Disappointed at the tragic death of his heart-throb, James was thrown into pensive mood. Two days after, he left the village unannounced to resume his work in Lagos. All appeal by his parents and kinsmen to take another girl in the village as replacement for a wife fell on deaf ear, rather, James opted to remain a bachelor. He ignores emissaries sent by his parents to rescind his decision to remain single despite the enormous wealth at his disposal.

Events happen so quickly in James’ new life. Just one day, he chances upon an old friend. After exchange of pleasantries, which revealed their new status, the friend invited James to a club party – gay club which he obliged.

That party changed James’ life as he gave in to overtures made at him by men lovers. Right from then on, James has a man lover, perhaps as an escape route to bury his ugly past.

Bad news, they say, spreads faster than disease. James has defined a life style for himself. He’s a gay – married to a fellow man. A kinsman who visited the village from Laos broke the news to James’ father.

“Have you heard?” he questions James’ father rhetorically.

“What is it, my son?”

“Your son, James is now married to a man in Lagos. He leaves with him in his house. Though, he tells people and neighbours that the young man is a friend. But he was kind enough to disclose the truth to me,” he said.

“Abomination!” the old man exclaimed in disbelief.

“So the story is true. For sometime now, my son, James has become a song for drunkards and a subject of whispering gossips at both the village square and beer parlour. See what city life has done to my son,” he lamented.

But James is just one of most Nigerians who indulged in this abysmal practice of homosexuality with impunity.

The story of Chinwe, a Nigerian lesbian based in Britain who flew into Nigeria to advocate the legalisation of homosexuality is still fresh in our minds. At the public hearing in Benin, Edo State, the self confessed Lesbian (Chinwe) wept profusely before the gathering why homosexuality should be enshrined in Nigeria’s constitution as a way of life and an infringement of their (homosexuals) fundamental human rights if their agitation is treated with levity.

Nigerians marvelled at the impudence and shamelessness of her face saving remarks. They variably winced under the biting sarcasm her comments elicited. But the last sentence, they found very exasperating as villianeous tongues of women in the vicinity lashed out with a sting that was too painful for her to bear.

Chinwe who was sandwiched by armed police officers, was taunted and teased but stood her ground.

Also, a male popular Nigerian musician was reportedly caught in the act with a renowned male entertainer. Though, the musician refuted the story, threatened to sue the newspaper for defamation of character, however, buried his head in shame when photographs, showing his clandestine affair were published days after the story was reported. That singular publication, however, sealed the lips of the musician and hairy entertainer lover.

John Amaechi, a basketball player in the NBA made a revelation of the plight of gay athletes in major league sports. In his book, titled, Man in the middle, Amaechi exposes the institutionalised homophobia inherent in the hyper-masculine world by American professional athletes.

 

Though, his exposure was greeted with avalanche of criticisms, but Ameachi was undeterred as he went ahead to openly discussed LGBT issues as well as encouraging other gay athletes to pursue their dreams irrespective of their shameful life-style.

These days, Nigerians who indulged in the illicit practice no longer operate under cover. They make bold to demonstrate their gayness by trying to initiate unsuspecting Nigerians into their fold.

Reverend Rowland Olajide Macaulay is a Nigerian Apostle of gay. His nefarious activities and a gay church was exclusively reported by Saturday Vanguard barely a month ago.

His church called House of Rainbow, was located at No. 36/36 Yakoyo Street, Ojodu Berger, Lagos and has become an abode for established gays and initiates.

According to the gay man of God, “my church is a voice of the younger generation of citizens, activists and diaspora, and our collective belief in a more progressive Nigeria. They are afraid of our growing influence as we gather allies not just from the West, a people that are not afraid but powerful and resilient.”

“Religion,” he observed, is a backbone to life in Nigeria, so, we all want to go to church. But we don’t want to lie to God about who we are.”

Macaulay who established his House of Rainbow in 2006 where he openly held Sunday services in an hotel hall in Lagos, decorated in rainbow colours however abandoned the church after a public backslash which culminated in manhandling of his members. He fled to the UK after he received death threats from unknown persons.

But Saturday Vanguard’s investigation shows that the man is back on the trenches. This year, he has recruited a small team which includes among others his local leaders in Lagos.

But for Mrs Josephine Adebayo being a lesbian was a choice she made following the neglect of her husband’s nonchalant attitude towards her.

Narrating her ordeal to Saturday Vanguard at her Victoria Island residence, Mrs Adebayo said lesbianism has offered her the romance the husband denies her.

“You may not belief it except you try it, lesbianism is more intriguing than most people thought. Though, I was hesitant to accept it when one of my good friends initially talked me into it. But today, I’ve every course to be grateful to her. Besides, my lover woman is so good at it,” she confesses.

A 21 year-old man, Adisa was almost lynched recently at Amukoko, a suburb in Lagos for sodomising teenagers for rituals. According to residents in the area, Adisa who was reverend as a man of God was caught in the act with one of the teenage boys in the area but he escaped through his back door. Also, a Nigerian gay was reported in one of the social medias as being married to a German lawyer and later divorced him.

Okechukwu, another Nigerian gay is currently operating a gay entertainment company in Abia State. Okechukwu however, disclosed that the main preoccupation of his company is to provide gay dancers and entertainment services for private parties and business functions.

But Anthonia Okorodudu (not real names) said she was introduced into lesbianism in a girls’ `, secondary school in Ughelli, Delta State.

According to her, the senior students usually had them as bunk-mates only to start fumbling with them when night falls. “At a time, the exercise was disgusting. First, I can’t imagine a fellow woman kissing and dipping her finger into my virgina as well as fumbling with my breast,” she said.

Today, Anthonia who later graduated in lesbianism has become mistress in the game.

“I’ve introduced many other notable women who suffer marital problems into the game. I must confess that they are enjoying it. Though, it’s a personal life style, hence the identities of such persons cannot be easily disclosed,” she said.

But Ethel who also attended an only girls secondary school in Enugu attested to this fact.

According to Ethel, “sometimes, your lover can ditch and abandons you in the cold. Under such circumstance, we insert candle into our virgina to get the desired erotic satisfaction. “You know, the edge of a candle stick looks more like a male’s organ. But there is a way of going about this,” Ethel reveals.

Similarly, Andrew Adewusi who attended an only Boys Secondary School in the North, said boys indulged in all manners of acts to derive erotic maximum satisfaction.

Till date, most of those boys who were caught in the act of gay in school refused to dump the illicit act. They are already neck deep in it,” he said.

Common features of

homosexuals

Though they are not easy to be identified but they possess peculiar traits which set them apart from ordinary persons.

Just like gigoloes, men who indulge in the act are generally fashionable and possess the carriage of a woman.

They are usually meticulous of their looks. Some of them wear ear-rings, fanciful plaited wrist watch and some finger rings.

Also, some of them use make-up as eye pencil and even apply lip-sticks.

They use feminine voice (emotional) whenever they are making overtures.

What thrills them in the fellow men, is guys with robust back side.

For Lesbians

Some of them prefer to look like a Tom-Boy. They dress like men but at the same time, stay away from men. Often times, they go in pairs and belong to one social club or the other.

They are usually society women who are into big time business. Musicians and politicians fall prey to such advances.

40 COMMENTS

  1. what a foolish article..stop this prejudice and dont concern yourself with what others do in their bedrooms..this is the 21st century for gods sake..oh sorry there is no god!.. you are a fucking retard for writing this..homosexuality is all over natures landscape..most mammals especially our closest cousins like gorrillas and bonobos practise homosexuality..Sex is sex and must not always be reproductively viable..its for pleasure too..some people are just born to want it with people of the same sex!!!! live with and stop being so ancient!!!

    • U must b a gay to b saying all this craps… Mtseeeewwww… No culture or religion supports this devilish act, 21st century my foot… With all d women in d world u guyz will settle on doin it with ur fellow men like u… What a disgusting act… May God deliver u guyz otherwise delate u ppl all from d face of the earth.

    • I think Charlse got it wrong by calling the writer a retard. It is clear dat he believes “…there is no God” in the 21st century and he is entitled to his opinion. He is also right to reveal dat ds disgusting act is a “bedroom” thing, but in a society that recognises good and bad, he shouldn’t quarrel wth pple who give their honest opinion on matters dat hv left the bedroom unto public discuss.

      It childish, it is dispicable and unacceptable. Keep it in ur bedroom and if u can’t, then don’t quarrel with those who see ur extreta outside. They hv a right to protest d offence to thr sensibilities

  2. Charles so you are one of those disgusting agents of Sodom and Gomorrah? May God have mercy on us all.
    Meanwhile whoeva wrote dis article, you said “faces of Nigerian gays”. Your write up doesn’t match ur story @ all. Where are d faces 4 us to see? Go back to school of journalism.

    • I take exceptions to the insults on this writer. “Faces” does not necessarily mean pictures, it could also refer to the description of how they appear.

      By the way, do u thing they look differently from u? They are like armed robbers, prostitutes, lawyers, architect…they have a face, nose, ears and mouth, but u can know dem by thr dispositions.

      Pls let us respect the writer.

  3. Charly, sorry you sold your soul to the devil. How do your parents feel having you as thier son?
    Hum, your and your fellow dandaudas, grab the Lord and be delivered from what you have been forced to like even when you know it is of the devil.
    Sorry.

      • I am going to refrain from cursing you out but i am so sorry for you too.. You keep on mentioning Jesus’s name as if that alone wins you any argument or makes your stance right. Have you ever thought of all those billions of good, honest people throughout history who were unfortunate to be born into what according to you is the wrong religion through no fault of their own. Are they all going to hell too?. I wish religion was true and that god existed but i have come to my senses, it is not true, god doesnt exist and it is you who needs deliverance from religion.

        • There is no God? Ask the sciencetist who even question the existence of God now agree there is “God particle” in creation. You are a fulfillment of the scripture which says its only the Fool that says there is NO GOD.

  4. “The Universe is not only queerer than we suppose, it is queerer than we can suppose”.
    There is nothing wrong with homosexual behaviour!. Sexual behaviours are not solely for reproductive purposes and a union between same sex partners should not be viewed in that context (not acknowledging religion here..its bs!). Homosexuality is widespread in nature. A closer look at nature reveals that homosexual acts are commonplace within nature’s landscape. Therefore, there is no basis for condemning homosexual acts as a crime against nature (or against Gods perfect creation).
    Love whoever you want to love and as humans we should not be so arrogant to think that we transcend these laws of nature because we have a bigger brain than most other animals. #thinkforyourself
    The problem with the world today is judging others only on the basis of religious doctrine. Look around you to see the horrors people have done in the name of religion. From 9/11 to the violence in Northern Nigeria. Religion was invented by man to explain natural phenomenon, life and death in a time without science when man couldn’t understand anything around him. That is why different people all over the world have different religions. You only think homosexuality is wrong because religion told you so. Why don’t you keep slaves or stone a woman that is not a virgin on her wedding night like the bible says in Leviticus. You cant pick and chose. Pick all or nothing at all.
    Watch this youtube clip and see for yourself.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LFeXwKnCUNI

    • Pls let me ask u @charles. For example if u are walking in a dessert and suddenly you see a watch onthe ground, wouldn’t u think that some one must have created that watch? Or can that watch just create itself? Then If u agree that there is a creator of that watch then definately there is a creator of this universe which is God the Almighty. If u say u believe in science there are some phenomenons that science can’t answer but u will find them in the book of the creator like the history of the world, what will happen to you if u die.There so many questions I know in your mind that science can’t answer them for you but if u ask God He will provide through his Books and teachings. send me ur views through my email [email protected] or follow me on twiter @amir_kkz

    • Charlie, I suggest u ignore them and focus on what u are doing. We love u and it does not matter what they think. We all can never be the same. We are different and its high time people accept it.

  5. @Charles u can go on defending ur illicit act am not disturbed but mind your God exists.if a man who has spiritual power from his gods to kill people 4rm his shrine and do other kinds of act,Don’t u think that there is another unequal(greater) and opposite power from almighty God.USE UR HEAD.

  6. @Charles u can go on defending ur illicit act am not disturbed but mind you; GOD exists.if a man who has spiritual powers from his gods can kill people 4rm his shrine and do other kinds of act,Don’t u think that there is another unequal (greater) and opposite power from the Almighty God.USE UR HEAD!

  7. I have used my head and this is the conclusion i came to..Its the most rational conclusion there is out there. Religion is outdated science invented by ancient people to rationalize the strange world around them. They couldnt understand natural phenomena like earthquakes, eclipses. the origin and purpose of life and death and what happened after death so they came up with a man-like figure (ever wondered why god had to be in the image of man?. This how far their imagination went back then) in the sky that was responsible for all that. They worshipped him and burnt sacrifices to him to appease him so he would refrain him from sending floods, earthquakes and famine. (things we understand today thanks to science).
    Man subsequently hijacked this need to belief, organised it into religion and used it to regulate society before nation states were formed. This is the true history of religion. Do not believe stuff because you were born into it. Remember that before white men came to Africa we had our own religion. This goes back to my point about religion being an invention by man. Its is not fact but fiction.

  8. @charles. You are so foolish for saying God does not exist. Who created you and your forefathers? Who created the earth you tread? Who created firmament above you without pillars? Who created the beasts, plants and birds?…. May God touch you.

    • FYI according to you those your forefathers are burning in hell since they were born too early to hear about Jesus Christ. am sorry but i favour reason over superstition.. my life makes more sense that way. i do good to my fellow man because i want to not for the fear of going to hell!..

    • Last time i checked Christian meant Christ-like..Not acting like ur Christ now are u?..From what i know of the ur religion Christ would have tried preaching to me and i know he instructed you to do so. You are a wolf in sheeps clothing.. You claim to be a christian but ur lying to urself..maybe we are both heading to that fictional place you call hell!.

      • Chales plz in as much as i will never ever condem you bcs i know that i’m not righteous myself i beg you to reconsider the area you are saying that God does’t exist. Have you seen a house that come to be without someone building it or a human existing without parents. No way likewise it is to our world and first parents God made them all. I tell you the truth brother you are alive today is by God’s protection he loves you , he care’s for you. He is not condeming you. He gave us the greatest gift which the gift of choice but he call is for us to make the right choice. You sleeps and lost your concouis every night and God returns it back to you every morning true or false God exists brother.

        • I respect your opinion and i am not trying to make you take mine but i still stand by the fact that god doesnt exist. It is the same questions you are posing right now that made man invent different gods all over the world and that has subsequently led to mass murders all in the name of who has the right god. Science has given us the answers to some of lifes questions that we assumed in the past was caused by some unseen force, god. Science still doesnt have all the answers but it is time we realise that we do not need gods or religion to explain where we came from. Continous research through scientific methods will provide answers over time the way it always has.

  9. My dear cikelu, i apreciate ur openess. One hs d right 2 live hapily bt u hv 2 knw dt life came frm a place & it’s goin bk 2 a place. Heaven & hell r nt fictional bt an existin reality. D reality of God’s existence is clearer dn d brightness of afternoon sun. No matter our desire 4 a happy life, we r nt mearnt 2 live anyhow bcs we r 2 account 4 our deeds. Nobody can live wt out sin dt’s y Jesus hs 2 come & die & all who believe in Him rcvs His Spirit. D bible says it all by it’s stand on man’s sexuality. God is nt a pervert & cannot create one so let’s nt b deceived dt some r born sex perverts. D same way u clean up urself wen found dirty (instead of believin dt u r born dirty)is d same way u can say NO 2 any contradiction in life

  10. All i am trying to say is just look at the evidence in support of evolution over the thousands of creation stories all over the world like the one in your bible who have zero evidence.. The idea of god is based on these stories and mans need to find a cause for everything especially our existence. Nobody knows exactly how we came to be, science doesnt claim to know too but we shouldnt be so arrogant to suggest we do because we can. USE YOUR HEADS FOR ONCE!!!!

    • I bless God for your life, and it is so oblivious that Jesus loves you for the fact you are well and alive to God be the glory. God exist and He was the one that created everything you are seeing around you and He also created you and everyone on earth. the reason He created us is to worship Him but unforunate sin came into the world thru one man ( Gen 3 v 3- 24) but God is loving and merciful that he had to scarifice his ony son ( John 3 v 16). the only true is in the bible read from Gensis to revelation, you can find true happiness only in God not in any sexual lifestyle, or any believe. i will be praying for you and wont stop praying from you until you come back to this very article or any media house to say you have experinces God and you now believe in Him and serving him. because God will use you mightyly in Jesus name Amen!

    • Ha ha Charles, you have time 4 all this hypocritical Nigerians telling you cray, Today they talk of God and few hours they on the internet ready to scam people. See, am Nigerian, gay and devoted to God and proud to say he has blessed me in many ways but hate a greater percentage of our people, they preach like they know God better and its not like they are not fucking dogs, killing their neighbors(Christian/Muslims, scamming people and more… ALL YOU FOOLS talking about Christianity like you are clean, bunch of fakes, I know so many of them here in Canada even when i was in Nigeria dressed on Sunday with Bible, screaming and next they are fornicating. Charles, i won’t even bother to listen to all this bunch of assholes and demons!!!

  11. When someone does sth bad, at first his conscience tells him his wrong when he tries to break free but finds it very difficult to, what does he do next? Justify his actions with time that evil he once dreaded becomes natural 2 him.Chikelu I won’t say anytin 2 u concerning dis issue but that SATAN wants to ruin u and has already started. From the way u sound, u talk as if u have gone a long way. There is a God who cares abt u and wants to save u and his name is Jesus Christ. Pls flee from homosexualism and immorality generally B/4 it is 2 late.

    • Plenty Thanks Jes. Charles, there comes a time in every man’s life when he must face the truth. There is a big difference between being alive and living and am tempted to believe that you know the difference between a man and a human.

  12. Charles, i beg u in d name of God who created us all 2 repent from ur sins. Think abt dis- after all these blasphemy against ur creator, wat wud b ur defence wen u finally meet wit Him face 2 face? I am nt perfect, i try 2 make peace wit my God everyday of my life, do d same n u will neva regret it. Jesus loves u brother.

  13. Wow…JESUS IS REAL…cuz i’ve heard him speak to me.as wierd as it may sound.HE loves me and I love him too.Also logic tells you homosexuality is a sin,because if your father was gay,there would neva have been charles in anyway….so don’t deprive those unborn kids the oppurtunity to live by waisting your sperm on a man…you know where its meant.God bless

  14. Charles,4 God sake repent 4rm all dis ur evil act,assuming ur father didnt used his sperm well u will neva be alive 2day,homosexuality is a bad offence in God presence…..,meanwhile God exist and heaven and hell is VERY REAL,repent 4rm ur sins and accept jesus as ur lord and personal saviour.charles chikelu u are very RUDE 2 GOD ASK 4 HIS 4GIVENESS

  15. I knw am nt perfect I commit sin everyday bt anytym I do dis tinz my concience pricks me about wat av done.immediatelly I knw wat av done is wrong.plz charles can u prove dis scientifically?if u say God dose nt exist hw did u manage 2 knw wen smtin is gud or bad,even talkin about d religion of our forefadas,wen u commit an illicit act in dose daz thunder will strke u 2 death,plz can u also xplain dat scientically?many more facts 2 beliv dat d almighty God exist.plz turn 2 God nw and b saved.I beliv d reason y u r still alive is cus GOD av a purpose for u,dat purpose is 4 u 2 preach and use urself as an example 2 turn people 2 God.wish u luck as u preach d gospel 2 ur world.tnx cus I knw God is speakin 2 u nw.tink about dis.everybdy’s comment as been against u is it dat u are more aware dan dem no bt cus d truth can walk naked bt a lie will alwas need 2 b dressed.I rest my case.

  16. Charles or watever they call ur name,u re such a scum for saying GOD did nt exist,dnt u see wonders of GOD around u go to d hospital see those that re sick He made it that way,if we re too choose nobody will choose to die,if u refuse to change insha ALLAH u will regret been born to d face of d earth u will suffer here on d earth and thereafter

  17. Charles ur stupid claims dat God Almighty d creator of d universe doesn’t exist means u’re of d devil. Jesus Christ was tempted by satan-lucifer after fasted but Jesus Christ over come it. Charles it will be better u av a rethink of urself, hw u wia conceive by both ur parent thru d wonders of God Almighty. Ur being alife is nt science is by God d master of All…. Repent HEAVEN & HELL is REAL….. Don’t be stubborn, D reason why u’re still alive is bcos God loves u. Jesus loves u nd I love u wit christ-like love.