Ask Jay: He Doesn’t Care About Me But I Still Love Him! What Should I Do?

Dear Jay,

I met a guy last March and in that same month he stopped wanting to be with me. This was after I visited him and spent a weekend at his place. I’m at fault anyway: I exhibited so much pride. But I can’t seem to forget him.
I apologized all to no avail. He wasn’t picking my calls and even when he came to the city where I live, he didn’t see me even though he promised he would.
Recently, someone told me that he never spoke evil of me. I feel I should go see him now and see if we can iron things out though it’s been more than a year. I’m afraid. Please, what do you suggest I do? I still love him!


Dear S.B,
It can be really painful to love someone who doesn’t feel the same. Especially when you’re the girl.
The truth is, you’re not at fault. There’s no amount of pride a girl can show that should make a serious guy abandon her within a month. In my opinion, this guy was not serious about you from the start.
Your errors were just an excuse for him to run away like he was originally planning to. He hasn’t shown any maturity and has seriously disrespected you. You deserve so much better.
I know it can be incredibly painful to forget someone you love but it is even more painful to stick around somebody who does not love you.
My advice to you is that you should try to forget him. He’s not worth the stress. Try to take your mind off him. Delete his number and remove him from your social networks so you don’t give in to the temptation to talk to him. Hang out with your friends, meet new guys, don’t stay idle.
I assure you that eventually you’ll move on and you’ll be better for it. I hope this helped. I wish you the very best.



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