Ask Jay: He Made Me Lose All My Friends. Now He’s Left Me Too. What Should I Do?

Dear Jay,
I was with a guy for 2 years but he left me after making me lose all my friends because he claimed they were a bad influence. I’m now all alone. What do I do? How am I gonna get my friends back?

Dear S.S,
I’m so sorry you were hurt. It’s very common when in love to allow your life revolve around your partner. The problem with that is, they become all you have and when they leave you feel like you have nothing left.
If you really want your friends back, I suggest you call them up and explain things to them. Tell them you got carried away. If they were true friends in the first place, they’ll accept you back.
If however, they reject you, don’t despair. It just means you have a chance to start afresh and make new friends. Just make sure that the next time you find love, you retain your own identity.
Don’t give up everything for a man because you don’t know what the future holds. If a man leaves you, it is your friends you turn to for support to get over the heartbreak. Never forget that. I wish you the very best.



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