Ask Jay: Help!!! I’m Pregnant For Him But I Don’t Love Him! What Should I Do?!


Dear Jay,

I am a 28 yr old female. I have a big problem and I’d like your advice. No insults please thanks. I’m in a relationship and my boyfriend loves me so much but I don’t love him in return. The problem is whenever I am with him I think about my ex. Right now I’m pregnant for him but I don’t love him that much. What should I do?


Dear J.F,

What I am here for is to give advice. I have never insulted anyone and I never will. You are in quite a dilemma, especially now with the pregnancy and at your age. You must be feeling pressured to just marry your boyfriend.

Well I want you to do 2 things, first of all, search your soul and decide if you truly don’t want to be with your boyfriend anymore. Love is a good thing, but it is not everything. Would you marry someone who treats you badly just because you love him?

If after you’ve done this, you decide that you can’t imagine being with your boyfriend and the thought of marrying him scares you, then don’t force yourself to stay with him. You’re the one who’s going to have to live with him, not your child and the child will not help you through a loveless marriage.

It’s up to you to weigh the consequences and decide which way to go. I hope this was a little helpful. I wish you the very best.



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