Ask Jay: She’s Pregnant But I’m Not Ready to Be A Father! What Should I Do?

Dear Jay,

My girlfriend just told me she is two months pregnant. I told her to go for a D&C, that I’m not ready to be a father as I am a fresh graduate and still serving .She however insists on keeping it. What should I do?

Dear P.N,
I can’t imagine how frightened you must feel. Having a child is a very big step and if you’re not ready, it can feel overwhelming.
The truth is that you can’t force your girlfriend to have an abortion. You might not be financially ready to have a child, but you’re old enough. It’s a good thing that here in Africa our parents are very supportive.
Talk to your family and hers about it, and I’m sure an arrangement can be made to cater for the child until you’re on your feet.
Having a child is not the end of the world. It is time for you to begin to prepare yourself to be a father and do what you can to see this child as a blessing. I hope this was helpful. I wish you the very best.



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