Ask Jay: There Was Another Girl In His Room!!! What Should I Do?

Dear Jay,

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 11months. Recently, I went to see him. When I got to his house, he opened the door and I could see the surprise on his face.
He suddenly took me by the hand and asked me to come with him outside. He then told me that there was a girl in his room.
I was dumbfounded and all I could do was laugh. I left the place cos so many emotions were running through me. I couldn’t think straight.
A few minutes later, he came to my house to beg for forgiveness. I’m so mad at him. The question is what should I have done at that moment when it happened? And what is ur advice to me. I love him so much and I cant afford to lose him but I’m confused. Thanks in expectance of ur reply.


Dear S.Y,
I can’t imagine how you must be feeling right now but I assure you, walking away was the right and the mature thing to do.
Has your boyfriend done anything like this before? If this is his first time, then I think you should forgive him. I know that you’re hurting but I’m a strong believer in second chances.
He acted poorly but he also showed remorse and quickly too. This shows that he truly cares about you. It’s up to you to watch out and see if his remorse is genuine. Make him work hard to earn back your trust.
However, you have to decide on your own if you can forgive him. Maybe not now, but eventually. If you can’t forgive him, then the relationship is as good as over. It’s up to you really. I hope this helped. I wish you all the best.



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