If Your Marriage Is Not Working, Get Out Fast – Joke Silva

7285-jokeScreen goddess, Joke Silva – who is happpily married to ace actor, Olu Jacobs – in a recent interview with Nollywood Insider had this to say about the high rate of divorce in Nollywood.

“Long surviving marriage is not exceptional in this industry. The thing is that, we are the ones that people know. Sony Irabor and Betty; John Momoh and Shola; and Bayo Oduneye have been married much longer. What of the late Justus and his wife? We have marriages that have stood the test of time just like you will find in other professions.

For me, since you love the person you get married to, both of you should work at it together. See it as your main responsibility once you get married.

Even before you get married, you should ask yourself, am I capable of making this person my total responsibility? That, am I willing to dedicate my time to making this person happy? It is a two way thing; it is not only the woman that is supposed to make the man happy, it is also for the man to make the woman happy. It is the two of you together and when you do that, it will work out well.

But if not, I don`t support emotional hardship just because you want to marry. God forbid bad thing! If it is not working, get out fast. If you don’t know where you are going, you should know where you are coming from.”

4 COMMENTS

  1. @ Silk,its not a bad advice to me. Infact its a superb one cuz a lot Of women undergo this “emotinal hardship” In their marriages here in Nigeria and it has made so many women suffer more,if its truly not working I support the idea of opting out o! Cuz o trust men,if its not not working,they r out already,whether the woman likes it or not, by having concubines,extra marital affairs,clubbing, keeping late nights,refusal to eat @home etc, just to pass a message across to the woman that he is out and so she should just get it! So what do u advice in dat area? Prayer? Bible says, my people perish cuz they lack knowledge. There are some prayers God does not answer or should I say, answers by giving u wisdom to solve by oneself/urself. Bible says, in all things, get understanding! That’s why Oyinbo no get wahala when it comes to “marriage stuff/issues” if its not working they get out,fast! To me o,” its for better for worse, for worse for GO/LEAVE!!!” Shikenah!

  2. @Omolarah marriage doesn’t jst work it’s made to work by both the commitment & resolution of parties, not jst prayers. While I agree wit ur assertion dat most ladies & infact men suffer tremendously from abuses in their marriages, I don’t think it sounds right for an elderly & more experienced person 2 outrightly advice a young couple 2 walk out of their marriage if it’s not working, that shd only be a resolve if there’s a threat 2 d life of d party involved. Marriage involves a lot of experimenting, patience & in most cases longsuffering. Ladies & gentlement fight 4 ur marriage, make it work by compromising a little ‘or more’, trust me divorce is hard 2 deal with.