There is this guy I am engaged to. When we met, we told each other our pasts. Unknown to him, I did not tell him all – I left out my deepest secrets, the series of abortions I had go through right from my college days. I feel insecure with him as he sees abortion as a disgusting act and he even talks about the way he condemned his friend’s gf that went through the process recently. Now, I am in a dilemma….I don’t want to lose him, I don’t want to tell him, but I feel uneasy with him because I am keeping him in the dark. What should I do?
I understand how reluctant one can be in opening up to spouses about the wrong done in the past. However, it would be another sad story if he hears it from another party. It is advisable to be honest and open in our relationships, let the cat out of the bag. His initial reactions would not be favourable, but with time, he should calm down, look over it and see the brighter side of the relationship.
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