I am 22 years old and I am in 300 level. I am dating a very pretty lady who is in her final year. This is a girl who has everything every man wants in a lady. She loves me so much and believes in me. She even turned down offers from ready-made young men all because of the love she has for me. Fine, I also like her, but I had to quit the relationship because I don’t even really have feelings for her. The problem is she is totally frustrated and broken because I quit the relationship. Her brothers and friends all see me as a player, but they don’t know the reason for my action. Now, her father is now the VC of my school, its not that he knows about the relationship, but I am somehow scared. I am not even dating another lady, but breaking up with her was just for good. I am not happy as she is broken….what do I do?
I think you should not have gone into the relationship when you knew you do not love her. It is really not fair to break the heart of someone who loves you that much. Anyway, since you claimed not to have feelings for her, it is a waste of her time to stick with her, because you would still eventually leave her. I think you should have a talk with her, let her understand that its not that something is wrong with her or something, but you are just being honest with her because you do not feel the same way. Encourage her and cheer her up….but you can keep a little distance so that she won’t get so attached to you again and you end up dating her out of pity…..it would only result in another round of heart break for her. Well, I don’t think he father would get to know about the issue, and if he gets to know, I don’t think he would take any action against you, as he has passed through that stage as well.
Wish you well,