[Advice Needed] My Parents Must Not Know That I Am Pregnant. Should I Abort It?

pregDear Tee,
I am in dilemma. I am 22 years old and I am a university graduate. I would be through with my NYSC next month which is October. The problem is I am pregnant, and yes, the man accepted the pregnancy, and he is ready to marry me. He is a responsible man, but he is not that financially stable. Also, my parents must not know that I am pregnant because they do not believe in getting pregnant before marriage. I am really scared right now. I am thinking of going for an abortion, but then I heard that complication comes up sometimes. What should I do?
EN

Dear EN,
I think you should be happy that the man who impregnated you is responsible and ready to accept both you and the child. Now, you are considering abortion because of what your parents would say and do to you, you want to put your life at risk and murder an innocent child because of what people would think about you. IT IS NOT WORTH IT, because the deed has already been done; you are pregnant and it is not a new thing. Why should you do such terrible thing as abortion? What if you don’t get to conceive another baby if you abort this? Have you thought about that? My dear, this is about your own life now and not about your parents. You are a graduate already and would be through with your NYSC next month, what more? You are not a kid any longer and you are at a point where you can take good decisions for yourself. If you go for the abortion and something terrible happens to you, your parent whom you did the abortion for, would be “madder” at you for doing such. Dear, it is all about you now. Yes, your parents would get offended, but it would not last forever. They would forgive you, put their loving arms around you, support and celebrate you again. BE WISE, SAY NO ABORTION.

Wish you well,
Tee

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15 Comments

  • Hey, i dont support d idea of u havin an abortion………tell ur parents about d pregnancy am sure they will mad at u but i promise they will get over it…..i have always taught abortion was d best thing to do……….but a day will come when u will be glad u didnt have an abortion.

  • I must tell u dt man proposes God disposes,bcz own my own view dt is ao God want ur life to be nt ur parent,dere4 tink twice b4 takin any decision……my friend.

  • This girl must be stupid. KEEP IT JO THEY WON’T KILL U. Mind u, its an opportunity for u. If u abort it, u may not come across pregnancy again in ur entire life. THINK TWICE.

  • Had it been your parents aborted u those yrs u would’nt have experience this now
    touch not my anointed and do my prophet no harm that baby is an anointed man of God so don’t play with d baby
    the deed has been done so 4get what ur parents will say or do to u and face the reality now, the reality they is ur life,
    if u want to play with it u r on own, tink about it now you are BLEES.

  • Its against the bible. Thou shalt not kill. Dat child in your tummy is anoda generation, if u abort it, it means u r aborting a whole generation which is an aborminable act in the sight of the lord .my dear don’t tink of it pls. Ask yourself, if u were aborted, wil u be her seeking 4 advice? I rest my case. A word is enuf for the wise

  • Tee,
    i’m also twenty two, just rounded off my degree programme and discovered i’m pregnant…thanks to my ever loving and supporting boy friend, i would have removed a baby who’s fault it is not for his/her situation.imagine killing your own(your child) because of what people would say..it’s not easy, but it’s a challenge you must face with God’s help..imagine the guilt you will leave with forever, that you murdered your baby…what if your womb is destroyed..what if you die in the process…hope you know we all have a destination when we leave this world?…yea, your parents will be mad with you, just as mine are with me right now, but in no time they’ll come over it… to have or not to have a baby can be a choice,but make sure you make the right choice…remember you cannot create a single hair..so why destroy the rare gift God has given you…you should even be glad that your partner accepted te baby.. choose wisely, my dear.

  • Pls if u wan’t to realy hear an advis from som 1 pls listen to me, n if at al u want 2 live pls hear me nw. Do u knw dat u can go 4 dat abortn n nt return? N com 2 tink of it where wil u go if u die nw is it haeven or hell? pls listen after deat is jugdment do not alow any body even d devil 2 deceiv u pls escape from hell. This hell borneth wid fire n brim stone, N/B it does not quench. Pls pray 4 4givess from God 1 ur sins u hav comited, do not think dat is d greatest sin 1 can comit, pls sin is sin, pray dat God should look in 2 de blood of his son which was shed on d cross of calveri. Cofes al ur sin 2 him n promis u wil never do them again wit a sincere heart i mean ur whol heart. N he is faith ful n just 2 4give u, n acordin 2 his word in 1john1:8-10. N u ur self wil knw dat u ar been 4given b/c d spirit of god wil bear u witness n from dat moment u wil hear a kind of joy in u dat u hav nevr hav since u where born. Pls retorn after doin dis n tel ur parent dat u are sori n u wil see a change think in u b/c the Lord has change ur life, n what there wil not b any uproar agaist u n ur parent pls try this an see if the Lord can fail no, i kn strongly that he can nt fail if at al u can make sure al this i have mension hav com through in ur life.

  • Ur thought is foolish bt thinking wit God is wise hw on cld u decide 2 abort a child wu God has designed 2 b d president r smbdy great in lyf r if u shld abort dis nd b happy dat u r free av u thought abt d pain u wil fil wen d doctor says u ad complicatns during abortn wil u b happy think twice though ur parents wil nt b hapi 4 dey 1nted u 2 kip ur virginity til marriage bt it as bin done so u av 2 tel nd sk 4 deir 4givnes jst lyk d prodigal son nd if dey 4give u den u shld do d proper rite of marriage

  • Ur thought is foolish bt thinking wit God is wise hw on earth cld u think of aborting a child wu God has designed 2 b d president r smbdy great in lyf r if u shld abort dis child nd b happy dat u r free av u thought abt d pain u wil fil wen d doctor says u ad complicatns during abortn wil u b happy think twice though ur parents wil nt b hapi 4 dey 1nted u 2 kip ur virginity til marriage bt it as bin done so u av 2 tel dem nd sk 4 deir 4givnes jst lyk d prodigal son nd if dey 4give u den u shld do d proper rite of marriage

  • The best of ol advic is not to let any 1 knw who u r. Try to maintain ur virginity, if by mistake that happen and get to the point of pregnanc. Thing as a human is not the polt of d baby rather u. Do u thnk ix beta to answer the questn of WHY THE PREGNANC OR both and WHY THE KILLING?

  • It had happened and the best thing i suggest is that you keep it.Aborting it may lead to an untimely death or developing a very severe pains within your body system.Besides, it’s a sin for some to do an arbortion.REMEMBER …….. HELL IS REAL!

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