Question #1- Are you looking for a serious relationship?
If your answer to this question is “yes,” then your approach to dating may be a little different from the tactics used by someone looking for a casual set-up. Ask your new love interest important questions before going on that first date.
Questions such as, “Are you looking to just date or are you looking for a serious relationship?” Will help you narrow down your search to a man who has similar relationship goals. Most men will share their intentions, especially if they have been divorced. But there are a few who won’t, so always, always trust your instincts.
Question #2- Are you looking to date many different individuals at the same time?
If your answer to this question is “yes,” you’ve set a solid starting point. Make sure to tell anyone you are thinking of dating, that you’re not interested in a monogamous relationship at the moment. Explain that you are simply interested in dating and having a good time.
I have found that many of the women I’ve worked with, as well as some of my friends, believe that an honest approach works best for them. Honesty is an approach that men I’ve worked with and know appreciate very much. Single and divorced men don’t want to waste their time any more than we do. Honesty is really the way to go!
3. Finally, and most importantly, remember that when you accept an invitation for that first date after a break-up (or extend an invitation!), the event is exactly that…JUST A DATE. Leave your baggage at home.
Don’t spend your time with a new interest talking about all the wrongs of your past relationships.
Don’t compare him to your past, expecting things to feel normal. Chances are he won’t be the same and things won’t feel normal.
Dating is very different than it used to be, and you truly may not know what you are looking for at first.
Take time to figure it all out before you get serious with someone new. You know what you do not like, but your wants and likes may change daily, and that’s ok.
Don’t overthink everything. Give yourself a break, take a deep breath, and jump!
You truly will be just fine.