There is this dude that is all over me. He got to know me via a friend and we got talking. He is a nice guy and all that, but then I do not have any feelings for him. He spends a lot on me, takes me out and assumes that we are already dating…Yes, he asked me out but I have not given him a yes! Please how do I pull out because I can’t take him as my lover.
I think you should stop going out with him, you should also stop collecting things from him, that would be the first way to pass the message across to him. Also, since you have not given him a response, you should do that – tell him you are not interested in having a relationship with him and you would not want him to waste his time with you. Then, you have to minimise seeing and contacting him. If he still wants to keep you as his friend and you have no problem with that, then let the friendship continue…but then, you have to be careful!
All the best,
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