We can give people plenty of tips and tricks on how to attract the opposite sex. Many are always looking for great ways to pull it off, but in that process they overlook some very important things. Most truly desire a successful relationship, but a good foundation has to be in place in order for that to happen. I’m not talking success, as in just staying together, because plenty of people remain in unhealthy and toxic relationships. I’m talking the success that creates a loving, positive, and fulfilling relationship in the way that all can appreciate. There are plenty of factors but here are five I feel are good to start with.
#1. Face Your Past
If you truly want to open yourself up to a great relationship, you should take the time to address any and all lingering issues from the past. Many people allow their baggage to cripple their relationships, or even stop them from being able to receive one at all. We all have issues, but that doesn’t mean we should continue to ignore them or dismiss the impact they have on our lives. Facing and addressing the past will give you the opportunity to release negative energy, and make room for all the positive energy needed for self love, and the love of the person who is best for you.
#2. Know Yourself
Far too many times we try to find someone to be with before we truly know and embrace who we are. Some feel you have to date or be in multiple relationships to figure that out. I disagree, I believe you can achieve this in many other ways that don’t involve constantly getting into relationships that will likely cause more damage because you aren’t truly ready for one. If you don’t know and love yourself first, then how can you expect someone else to truly know and properly love you as well.
#3. Be Honest
If you start a relationship on lies, then there is a very good chance it will eventually come crashing down due to more lies. Lies eventually catch up to us. And in the process, create an environment of doubt and mistrust that will only spread more negativity in all aspects of that relationship. I know none of us are perfect and, chances are, that all of us haven’t been 100% honest. We still should do better and embrace a more honest approach. Not just with that person but with ourselves as well. Ignoring the truths you feel inside is typically a setup for living a lie you know isn’t best.
#4. Learn How To Communicate
Honesty is great, but if you aren’t talking then you don’t have a chance to implement it and see how good it can be. We always hear communication is key and this is simply the truth. A relationship lacking in communication is one that is less likely to be successful. We can’t get to know each other or begin to have a greater understanding if we don’t take the time talk. People should learn how to effectively open up and express themselves. People also should learn that listening is just as important as talking. This minimizes the chances of issues lingering and not being properly addressed. At the end of the day, if we can’t talk to each other then should we really entertain trying to be together?
#5. Develop a Friendship
When we are friends, the other four on this list become a lot easier to accomplish. Many times dating is just an audition and the only people that go to auditions are performers. If we want to build something genuine with this person, then we shouldn’t overlook the importance of being friends with that person. When a genuine friendship is in place, you are able to enjoy that person for who they are and not necessarily what they can give you. It creates a great foundation for a fun, happy, and loving relationship.