Can A Woman Be In Love With A Man But Hate Lovemaking?

Can a relationship exist without sex? What part does lovemaking and pleasuring each other plays in a relationship? A reader sent the following story asking for help.

sex_legsMy story goes this way. I fell in love with a lady, and for years, I had been renting an apartment for her. Later on, I told my parents of my feelings and the decision to take her as my wife. My dad, however, said No, which meant I cannot get married to her as she is not from Anambra State. We are no longer lovers.

I got to know another lady, just as beautiful as my ex-lover. We both get along and we are in love. However, the quality of sex is quite low, as she told me she hates sex, and does not experience anything during sex.

What should I do? I love her so much, I am 26 years of age, and I need my own wife.

Does she love me, or is she sleeping around with other guys, or is that how she was born? She made me become a lover of masturbation, and she doesn’t ask if i have another woman. I still love her.

Am I stupid or what, because I am no longer happy with her lifestyle.

12 COMMENTS

  1. Ask questions!
    Try to investigate her previous love life!
    But try not to take in everything you hear!
    Its very rear to have a lady that dislikes sex, when she knows clearly that’s the part through reproduction. Except she has plans not to give birth after their their joint!

  2. Pls don’t B d fool.. If u are truly ha 1 & only she wld sacrifice 2 u all u ask 4 which she has or can giv. Its possible she isn’t sure its u she wants 2 settle down with, so y wld she giv 2 u ha most cherished asset. A woman may truly dislike sex but 1’s a while she makes luv wit ha partner cos he Nids it

  3. I personally don’t like sex. But I’m married with two kids and so much inlove with my husband. D day I conceived my first baby, I was crying during penetration cos I felt pains rather than pleasure. But u know what? I prefer lovemaking to sex. The art of kissing and fondling, all kinds of oral sex turns me on, but d moment it is time for penetration, I’m shivering n quaking n crying. So ur babe might love oral sex. Try it!

  4. How was she able to tell what it feels like to have sex if she hasn done it before? Maybe she had a bad experience. But u need to play it cool with her. Don’t rush her into doing it. Do more of caring, sound sweet, tease her when need be, and show her that u love her sincerely. She will come around.

  5. I can tell you she’s a good girl. That’s the nature of my girlfriend. She only consents to sex because she really loves me. I met her a virgin and she can stay for months, without me no sex for her. Keep her and you will enjoy her as a wife than a girlfriend. The truth there is that she considers it a sin and everytime she does it with that guilt, it can’t be that pleasurable.