“I Want To End My Relationship With A Stingy Igbo Guy” – Girl, 22

Managing finances is a sensitive topic for many couples. However, the ‘money question’ undeniably is a vital one, and eventually pops up at some point of every relationship. And sometimes, it plays the crucial role in deciding whether or not to stay with our partner.

couple-arguing-about-budgetOur reader Anabel Johnson sent us her story, asking for your advice.

I am a girl of 22 years dating a guy of 27. We have been dating for almost a year, and I love this guy. But the problem is, he is really stingy. Maybe because he’s an Igbo.

Because of this, I have started to develop hatred for him. He doesn’t want to leave me. I say hurtful things on purpose to make him angry with me and let me go. However, the more I try, the more he convinces him to stay.

It’s not like I’m interested in his money. He stays in Kurudu [Abuja], to reach his place costs about N250 in transportation payment. After I pay the required N250 to visit him, he will use a N200 note to slap me in my face. But this money cannot take me to my place, so I have to add N50, or sometimes I would trek to reach my house. When he did it for the first time, I thought he just wanted to know what kind of girl I was. But now I see that it is not true, and it is rather a habit or a character trait that he inherited from his forefathers.

I try to make him understand, but all I say falls on deaf ears. He is stingy even to himself, he won’t buy clothes, all he ever buys is drinks.

He told me one day that he would like to marry me, and that I should wait for him. How can I wait for such a man? Only if I want to die young from hunger. If I mistakenly marry him, would he not become the woman of the house?

The funniest part of it all is that he tells me to dress up nicely when I visit him, but wouldn’t give me any money to buy clothes!

Please, just give me some advice! I am just sick and tired of the relationship, I want to put an end to it before I get a heart attack.

7 Comments

  • I WOULD SUGGEST YOU BOTH SHOULD SIT AND IRON THINGS OUT, YOU NEVER CAN SAY IF HE IS ON A PROJECT THAT DEMANDS MOST OF HIS INCOME.

    HOWEVER THE CASE MAY BE, YOU BOTH SHOULD AGREE EITHER ON WEEKLY OR MONTHLY ALLOWANCE AT-LEAST TO SHOW A SIGN OF COMMITMENT FROM HIM .

  • Quit dat relationship unless u want to die of hunger..a stingy man wuld always remain a stingy man.,if u lyk talk heaven nd earth to him..

  • He is very right in all he did bcos u will eventually leave him. My guy is actually afraid of bein duped by u. U knw wat i mean, polishn anoda man’s shoes. Wit my experience i just found out dat girls ar insatiable parasites, always lukin up on people 2 take care of dia financial needs as if men ar money printers. D funny part of it is dat girls easily forget gud dids n dumps u as soon as dey tink ur nt givn dem enough. Dis can make a man die untimely so its betta 4 u 2 leave him now atleast since he didn’t spend much on u he wil have notin to cry for. I wil do worse dan dat except we truely have marriage intrest! So if u luv him, promise him u wil marry him if he changes n watch d miracle!

  • I was a mini bus conductor after my service without work, although having submitted my cvs to many companies without a call from them, one day my girl woke up and told me that she is quitting the relationship, which she did, because i no longer flex with her like school days. Calling it being stingy, she left. Only for me to meet with a lady in our bus, who happened to be a messiah for me, rented a flat for me, she did everything, even get me a job in one of our biggest bank. Now both of us have married with twin boys living happily. Sometime i believe that true love never say good bye nomatter how it hurt.. Good luck if that’s your final decisions. … ……… ( princess Rachel i love you! You are my life and happiness)

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