Have you ever had a boyfriend your friends couldn’t stand, or met a friend’s new guy and been shocked at how much you dislike him? I’m always shocked when I see gorgeous, friendly and quite frankly amazing women with less-than-desirable guys; surely they know they could do so much better! Well, apparently not, and we all know how hard it is to talk to friends about their partners, so I’ve devised 8 signs you are too good for him… the more you match, the faster you should ditch him. Problem solved!
1. HE’S DATED YOUR FRIENDS
Okay, so recycling is good. But when he’s dated your sister, your best friend and that girl you used to work with, he isn’t worth recycling. Let’s face it, when you want to complain about your guy, you don’t really want to hear “Yeah, he used to do that to me, too.” And when he forgets your birthday? A list of what he got her isn’t going to help. Save yourself the hassle!
2. FOOTBALL OBSESSED
There is nothing wrong with liking sports. In fact, I really look forward to watching football with my boyfriend, and really miss it when the season is over! There are limits, though. If his team wins, everything is great, but if they lose… well, he’ll sulk all weekend, grieve like someone has died and get into fights. Umm… no.
3. HE WON’T PAY FOR ANYTHING
Every couple deals with finance differently. Some couples go halves, some pool funds… whatever you decide, though, you should both be making equal-ish contributions. If you find that you are paying for everything, its time for a serious talk. After all, the only thing worse than being taken for a mug is losing all your money while you are at it.
4. HIS HOUSE
So he’s 32, and he lives at home. Don’t feel too sorry for him, though, he hasn’t lost his job. He simply prefers buying porn, beer and video games to ‘boring’ things like bills. The added nightmare? If you ever do manage to convince him to move out, he’ll expect you to do EVERYTHING. After all, Mummy always did!
5. HIS JOB
It doesn’t really matter what he does, as long as he can live off his income, it’s a secure job and he makes an effort with it. But when he hasn’t got a job, you have to start wondering why. Most people start working at around 20, if not much younger, and slowly build up a career they are proud of, so if he spends all his time watching TV while you work, it’s time to kick him to the curb.
6. RELATIONSHIP STATUS
So you’ve had the talk, and decided to become exclusive. So why does his Facebook still say “single”? And why is he so against you meeting his family? A best friend of mine once dated a guy who recorded her in his phone book under a man’s name! If he’s keeping you a secret, it’s time to find out why… He’s either got something to hide, or he will have soon.
He’ll pay you back! But first he needs to borrow a little more, and then a tiny bit extra, and his risk hasn’t quite paid off yet, don’t worry he’s got a new idea, you’ll get it back with interest! If your money seems to be disappearing into an endless hole with his name, and none of it is coming back, you need to look hard at what he is giving to your relationship.
Mark yourself off against this list, and see how you score. It can be hard to have an objective view of something you are emotionally involved with, but if reading these is like reading your diary, then it might be time to upgrade to a better model. After all, you deserve it! Do you know a sign that shows you are too good for him? Please let me know!