I Confessed to Cheating On My Wife Only to Realize I Didn’t. [Advice Needed]

A man confesses to cheating to his wife. She moves out to figure out what to do further. The man finally learns he didn’t really have an affair and regrets not having lied to his wife.

confused black man

Last week, we held a small party at our office celebrating a successful deal with our business partners. I told my wife in advance that I would probably be late for dinner, so she shouldn’t wait for me and go to bed.

There is a co-worker who recently started to work with us that I’ve developed an attraction towards. It seemed that she fancied me, too.

Long story short, we drank a little too much, and when she suggested calling a taxi and continue our own “private” party at her place, I didn’t mind. I woke up the following morning in her bed, without my clothes. She was busy making breakfast, but I went home straight away. I felt so guilty! My wife’d been waiting for me for whole night and calling me, but I don’t remember any of this, nor do I remember what happened between me and the coworker. But I’ve assumed we had sex and I confessed. She has since moved out to live with her parents and decide what to do.

On the day after my confession and wife’s moving out, the colleague revealed to me nothing happened between us. That I’ve taken my clothes off and passed out in her bed. Should I beg my wife for forgiveness and tell her the whole story? Or should I let her to cool down and decide whether to stay with me? If only I lied about where I had stayed that night…

5 COMMENTS

  1. Tel her d truth & she really luvs she’l b back 2u b4 u knw it. As a married man u nid go ut wit orda women, if u luv ur wife u wn’t do tins 2 hurt her feelings & len 2 stay oly wit ur wife. Jst go & tel her evytin dat hppn

  2. My brother I salute ur courage to tell ur wife what U thot transpired between U and ur colleague.U’re a rare breed,really.I wish I cud see and spank ur wife!What on earth was she thinking to leave home?!What if U did cheat and never told her?Na wa for some ladies o.Anyway,for d sake of peace,I’ll suggest U go and bring her home with d truth of d whole episode.But she fall my hand sha!….mmmmsscheew!

  3. I like you! Ur type is rare! Don’t relent! Continue to fear God and love ur wife!she is hurt nd anybody would have done same or even worse (even though u were eventually innocent).However, call her and dialogue with her. Dialogue can solve issues!For me, I would prefer to contend with a bitter truth than live with lies and deceit!Gudluck!