I’m 24 Years Old, Should I Tell My Girlfriend I’m Still A Virgin?

Men have their weaknesses and fears, too, and sometimes they are worried by the smallest things. A young man has never had sex and wonders how he should handle the matter with his soon-to-be girlfriend. 

I’m a 24-year-old guy, and I still am a virgin. I don’t think it is a bad thing that I’ve never had real, “grown-up” sex in my life. But I’ve always been shy around the girls. My inexperience adds to the overall embarrassment.

There is a girl I like very much, she’s 22. All we did was some kissing and light petting, nothing more. She says she wants to wait a little to see where our relationship leads us. I don’t want to rush the things as well. But she has had two boyfriends before me and is no longer a virgin, as she confessed to me. I, on my part, have only kissed in the past and never had a serious girlfriend.

I try to convince myself that she will laugh the matter off when she learns about my virginity and teach me things. I hope my first experience will be with her, but what do I do? Do I tell her I’m not very experienced, or do I pretend that she’s not my first and let my instincts overtake? How do I address the issue?

2 COMMENTS

  1. I understand your story, cos I also find myself in such a situation, I’m 27yrs and a virgin and I’m a student of UNILAG. I had been a shy person in the mist of ladies but now I have many female admirers, but I vowed to myself that I will only have sex with a girl that am convinced that I can marry, cos I really know things I’ve gained fron been a virgin, I think that u should ask yourself of what you need instead of what you want. Cheers!

  2. First, kudos for maintaining ur virginity til 24 cos it’s nt easy.
    I, also am 28 and wud be 29 in a few weeks, yet maintained my virginity.

    It depends on what you want and how you want to live ur life. If u are sure of whom she is, go ahed and tel her and make her understand that you want to kip it for her. I.e if you chose to kip it for mariage.

    In terms of romance, it wil help to reduce the feelings of s*x and u as wel.

    Am highly romantic in nature and did enjoy such fun game wit her and wen, yet we didnt have. It depends on what u want out of d relationship.
    Finaly u can kip it up if u are one of those that chose to precerve it [since u no d value ] or open up to her and let her show u the way provided you love each other and that you need it.
    That’s my unsided, advice.
    Thanks