1. You want to escape your current environment.Many of us have grown up in homes that were less than ideal. In our attempt to get away from uncomfortable, and even, painful situations, we look at our mates as a lifeline. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, the pain you think you’re escaping will only find its way into your relationship if you don’t take the time to deal with it.
2. You are looking for someone to complete you.Then you’ll be happy. If you’re not content with where you are in life and complete and whole before you get married, you’re setting yourself up for failure. When you look for someone else to fill the hole only God can, you’re expecting the impossible and inviting the inevitable. The person you’re looking to complete you will never meet up to your expectations, through no fault of their own.
3. You want to do it to please your parents. So often, as children, we seek our parents’ approval of the choices we make: whether it’s the clothes we wear, our hairstyle, school of choice, or friends. It only makes sense that we would do the same for the man or woman we intend to spend the rest of our lives with. However, although it’s ideal for your future spouse to be compatible with your family, it shouldn’t be the only reason you decide to marry this person. After all, it’s you, not your parents, who will have to wake up next to them every morning.
When you finally make the decision to commit your life to the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with, make sure it’s because you’ve prayed about it and have taken the time to do the work on yourself so that you’re coming into the relationship whole, healed and happy.