Signs You Are Not Meant To Be

The concept of soul mates- two people sharing a deep and special connection- is one reality that most people crave for but it’s however nothing more than a pipe-dream.

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While the existence of the concept has been challenged, there is one whose validity remains beyond doubt- incompatible mates. Since most of us are always confronted with the hurdle of choosing the right partner, here are four signs that you’ll know you and that partner of yours aren’t just meant to be together.

YOU AND YOUR PARTNER FIND FAULTS IN EACH OTHER

There is nothing more annoying than having a partner who is an obsessed perfectionist. Anything you do hardly seem right or perfect. Worse still, both of you constantly point out each other’s faults like a compensation would be given for the competition. Pointing one another’s faults is good, it becomes bad when it constantly leads to misunderstanding.

YOU AND YOUR PARTNER HARDLY SEE EACH OTHER

If there are more excuses not seeing each than there are seeing each other, any more time spent in such relationship is a mere waste of time. You will fare well passing time playing badminton or something. When you hardly miss each other or feel reluctant calling or message your partner, then waking up and walking away from that misadventure called a relationship would be the best decision you’d ever make. If you both don’t mind being apart or you enjoy spending time with other people than your significant other, then it’s a sign that going further in such relationship is a disaster waiting to happen.

YOU AVOID EACH OTHER IN PUBLIC PLACES

Except you have a phobia for public places or you both are running a reality show, avoiding each other in public places is a dangerous sign that such relationship isn’t heading anywhere. If your partner isn’t proud to display you in public view or rarely liked to be seen with you and hides from you like you are carrying a leprosy, it could only mean two things- you are being used or (s)he is is hoping to meet someone else.

YOU AND YOUR PARTNER HAVE DISAGREEMENTS MORE OFTEN THAN NOT

If the amount of time you spend disagreeing is more than what you spend you enjoying the relationship, then your true Mr(s) right still needs to be located. If both of you have an extremely hard time tolerating (including that body odour that could wake the dead) and forgiving each other, then no prayer can solve your incompatibilty. Worse still, if both of you scream at each other like you are senior members of Nigerian supporters club, then there is nothing more beneficial than parting ways.

– by Kalejaye Abayomi