Pastor Chris Oyakhilome Discusses Divorce Allegations In Sunday Service


It’s been in the newspapers, magazines and online blogs and the topic is still hot and trending.

Pastor Christian Oyakhilome realized it was wise to discuss the issue as he addressed the allegations leveled against him after more than a week of maintaining silence on the divorce suit filed against him by his wife,

Speaking on Sunday evening during the monthly global communion service of the church, he said the allegations were “crazy” and “stupid”.

Oyakhilome acknowledged that divorce is unbiblical but suggested he could consider the option should his wife insist on it.

He also criticized the media for prying into his private life and urged members of his church to pray for his estranged wife.

Read his speech below: –

I understand that some media houses particularly in Nigeria and maybe in South Africa (I don’t know) but there are some of them that have been writing some real stupid things…real stupid things, and errrrhh…frivolous charges…that’s crazy.

A man of God…you have to understand something about a Man of God. A man of God is not just someone who worships God or who preaches God. A man of God is directed by God, set on course by God. If you study the scriptures you will not find one Man of God going against God, sinning against God, the only thing you can find is a Man of God, maybe…in two different things

1. Moses for example, when he struck the rock twice, provoked by the anger of the people, not because he wanted to do something against the Lord. No Man of God does something against the Lord. Are you hearing me? No!…a Man of God is set on course, there is a type of life that he’s been given, alright?

2. Then you have a young man, a young prophet, he wasn’t named, he was deceived by another Man of God, and so he went in the direction God says don’t go.

That’s only the kind of thing you’d find about a Man of God when he misses the message of God or he acts beyond what God said. But a Man of God setting himself in defiance to the word of God and living like they (media houses) are writing those stupid things that I did this, that I did that…You don’t know what a Man of God is.. I don’t go in that direction. That’s crazy.

I wasn’t accused of those things you (media houses) said, nor did I commit those stupid thing that you said…and I don’t need to go to that level and such discussions. Jesus Christ was accused by many, with lots of frivolous charges. There would ALWAYS be those who’d like for it to be true, but you know, in spite of the accusations against Jesus, it didn’t change who he was!

There are preachers and there are Men of God. I’m not a preacher, I’m a Man of God…understand the difference. And I go in the way I’m asked to go, it may cause some troubles with individuals, but that’s not because I’ve done something wrong.

And when it comes to Rev. Anita, what I’d say to you is pray for her, don’t act like ‘why why why is she….’ . Married to a Man of God does not automatically make you Woman of God! You can make mistakes, but you know, people expect the wife of a Minister to definitely be at the level of the Minister, and so they may be looked upon and the expectations maybe like that, but it’s a positional thing! alright!

If a Man of God is married, it does not automatically mean the wife of the Man of God is therefore a Woman of God! That’s not how it is in the Bible. That’s why you don’t really find wives of Men of God listed in the bible. How many of them? Who was Peter’s wife? Did you ever know her name? You’d never find out! Who was John’s wife? Did you ever read the name? What about all the other apostles? How many are registered in the bible? You never find their names, why? Ask God when you find HIM! **Smiles

So, they are little things, don’t try to make something big out of them, and emmm.. we’re journeying, doing the things that God’s called us to do…Christians should not have a divorce, it shouldn’t be, but you see, that doesn’t mean a Christian may not take the step. They may do it, but that doesn’t make it right. And we shouldn’t take one another to court, but when it happens, not because we wanna go there, someone is taking us there.

That’s a problem, be wise, stay focused in the Word of God, and don’t let those who want to feast on things like this including Christians. You know there are Christians who like things like this, they wanna make something big about it. You should only say those things that are from God, and become honorable in your speech, Alright! …and judge nothing before the time…be wise, Glory to God.

So we are going greater and greater and greater by the power of the living Christ. Hallelujah! So, we are not walking in sin and living in sin and hoping we can mix sin and righteousness together, NO!, we are the manifestations of His righteousness, we walk in that light only, and that’s the way it’s gonna be! Glory to God


    This is very ridiculous! A man of God should be honest enough to accept his fault. Who ordained Anita as a priest? Pastor Chris is talking as a man of book not a man of God.
    The scriptures do not talk about the desciples’ wives because there were no instances of divorce or inability to manage their homes. There are lots to marriage than mere pronouncement of husband and wife.
    It is funny to read that Chris was asking his congregation to pray for Anita alone. What about himself? Who is he that he is beyond prayer? He cannot claim to be a saint in this situation. If he had managed his home well this scandal would not come.
    My piece of mind to him is that the lawyer is trying to be economical with the truth. The whole statements border at the fact that Pastor Chris is irresponsible and two of them now have love lost. 1 Peter 4:8 (NLT) states, “Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covered a multitude of sins.”
    I wonder the type of love the couple in question are preaching to their congregations. The love they profess before marriage has now turned to hatred. This is contrary to the scriptures. 1 Jn. 2:9-11 declare that anyone who hates another Christian is a child of darkness. Are these two pastors truly followers of Christ. If you fail to follow Christ you will be in crisis. Could this be what is happening to then?
    The behavior of the couple portray them unqualified for the leadership roles they are holding. 1 Tim. 3:4 (NLT) states that a leader “must manage his own family well, with children who respect and obey him.” Verses 11-12 talk about faithfulness and self discipline.
    As for sanctity of marriage, although the scriptures say that the wife should accept the authority of the husband (1 Peter 3:1), the husband is also admonished to give honor to his wife and treat her with understanding as an equal in God’s gift of new understanding (v.7). Heb. 13:4 (NLT) says, “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage…”
    Jesus said God did not support divorce, Mt. 19:4-9; Rm. 7:2-3. Freedom from law is not lawlessness. It simply means that the holy spirit is guiding your steps so as not to sin. That is, those with the holy spirit will know the wrong from right. The couple in question should know this better than members of their congregations. If they are joined to the spirit of Lord they suppose to be one spirit with God, 1Cor. 6:17.
    There is no more love between the two because they are no longer in spirit with God. They are now at lust. Paul emphasised in Eph. 5:33 (NLT) “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
    It is never too late for the couple to go back to the drawing board and settle their differences amicably. There is no sin that cannot be forgiven in as much as God do forgive us our iniquities. They should ask for God’s wisdom. They need it to apply to their marriage. It takes two to tangle. A single person cannot be fighting alone.
    Let the spiritual leaders come into this matter. Afterall, blessed are the peace makers for they shall be called children of God, Mt. 5:9. It is high time they arrested this type of ugly and disgraceful act in the house of God.
    What has the couple got to say about Jesus’s injunction in Mt. 18:15-17, 21-22, 35? The scripture says we should settle with our opponent before going to court. Even if we are about to pray and remember that we have offended someone or someone has offended us we should go and settle first with the person before prayer. Are all these mere decorations in the bible? Only the self righteous will not see this as a commandment.
    May there be divine intervention in this matter so that the name of God will not be wrongly talked about in Jesus’s name. Amen.

    • The man of God in him has vanished…. what kind of words or statements is these… does he think he is above his congregational prayer? talking so arrogantly.. he ordained the woman as pastor.. what a shame.. i knew it from the onset though.


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