4 Ways To Have A Drama-Free Marriage

Passion in a marriage can fizzle or even feel like it’s under attack. The attacks can come from just the every day life issues we all deal with or from intense stressors that may come your way. Because of the fizzle or the attacks, intimacy in a marriage has to be developed, nurtured, and protected.

It’s not easy to keep up a great sex life that’s full of passion, but there are a few tips we’ve discovered while counseling couples that can really help to help maintain a good sex life but also boost one that may have fizzled.

1. Maintain a friendship with your spouse.

Spend time together without the children, free from distractions, yes that means your phones and your tablets too. Give your undivided attention to your spouse. Make them your priority.

2. Have more times of acceptance rather than rejection.

Accept your spouse’s advances, kind gestures, loving touches more times than you reject them. No one wants to feel like their spouse doesn’t want them or that they aren’t attracted to them. Rejection says to your spouse, I’m not interested in you and if done enough times can make your spouse feel unwanted. Yes, even in a loving marriage, people can feel rejected. Rejection looks like, I’m too tired, I’m too busy, I need to handle this with the kids, I have this big project at work, church, school … where other things are made more important than your spouse.

3. Reciprocate Intimacy

Make the times that you are intimate with one another a reciprocal thing. Serve, give, cater to your spouse and their needs first. Go out of your way to please them. If both people are going out of their way to please the other, both of you will be happy and satisfied.

4. Create passion in your relationship through a variety of actions.

Create passion in your relationship through flirting, sending text messages, pictures, notes throughout the day to build anticipation for that evening. Find that thing that really makes your spouse want and desire you and do it. Make them feel desired, compliment them, kiss and hug passionately. Whisper to them what you want to do to them once you get home. Make an event out of it so that the two of you can enjoy being together and desire to come back to it over and over again

source: BMWK