Real love isn’t just an euphoric, spontaneous feeling; it’s a deliberate choice, a plan to love each other in sickness and in health. Of course, you don’t choose who you’re attracted to, but you definitely choose who you fall in love with and more importantly who you stay in love with.
Our society places a lot of emphasis on feelings. We are taught that we should always follow our feelings and do whatever makes us happy. But feelings are very fickle and fleeting. Real love, on the other hand, is like the North Star in the storms of life; it is constant, sure, and true. Whenever we’re lost and confused we can find strength in the love that we have chosen.
Besides, life already offers us plenty of spontaneity: rejection, job loss, heartache, disappointment, despair, illness, and a host of other problems. We simply can’t abandon ship every time we encounter a storm in our relationship. Real love is about weathering the storms of life together.
More often than not, real love has its sleeves rolled up, dirt and grime smeared on its arms, and sweat dripping down its forehead. Real love asks us to do hard things, to forgive one another, to support each other’s dreams, to comfort in times of grief, or to care for family. Real love isn’t easy.
The question “Can Your Love for Someone Break through the Barrier of a Disability in Them” heated arguments on social forums.
Below are some of the reactions of Naij.com readers when asked if it is okay to love someone with one disability or another.
Madu E Madu said “Yes of course, love is tolerance and it is charity, love overlooks disabilities & its inabilities, when I have the love of God in me I’ll love in accordance to his will”.
“Love is no longer blind, only if he becomes disabled after we love each other but if the disability Is so bad I would leave him, how would I feed or take care of myself” Sharon Ifeoma said.
One of our readers said: “I’ve never met someone who was more comfortable in their own skin. I am most impressed by character and the Challenges that are created and it has nothing to do with each of “our” disabilities cos I believe genuine and true love over throws all”.
According to Kafayat Abake Oni, “as long as he is not disabled in the brain, the thing is, there are some people out there with perfect body but imperfect thinking and manners. I’ll rather date a physically disabled person than an intellectually disabled idiot”.
The response from naij.com readers shows that some are against dating people with disabilities, while some are in support.
Whether you are in support of dating people with disabilities or not, you should know no one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.