Tired of dating? Want to move your relationship to the next level? Want to win over the man you love dating? Well, if you go about it in the right way, you’ll greatly increase the chances of making it work out just the way you hoped it would. Of course, your idea of what exactly the ‘next level’ is and his may be two different things. Your idea of the next level may be marriage, to him it may just mean living together, or vice a versa. Make sure that when you talk about the next level that you clearly define what exactly that means to you.
Here are some easy steps you can follow that may help ‘push’ things along:
1. Talk to him. Tell him what you want. Be careful how you approach this because you don’t want to sound whiny or needy (if this is something you really want and you really feel strongly about it’s easy to sound a little desperate if you’re not careful). Again, don’t just tell him you want to take things to the next level, be clear on what that means to you.
2. It’s important that you don’t push the issue. It’s great to bring it up after all, you can’t expect him to read your mind can you? You just have to make sure that you’re going to be able to accept whatever he wants without getting upset. If the two of you have been together for a while and this topic has never come up it’s almost a sure bet that he isn’t interested in taking things to the next level, if he were he would have already brought it up (of course, it’s possible that he’s just shy or afraid to bring it up because he didn’t know what you’d say and he got scared).
3. If he isn’t interested in making any changes then have a mature, calm, conversation with him and ask him to explain what he means. Does he mean that he can see the two of you moving forward some time in the future, but he’s just not ready right now? Or does he mean he doesn’t see your relationship going much further than it is right now? These may be tough questions to ask, and tough answers to hear, but it’s important that you find out where he’s at when it comes to your relationship.
4. If the two of you have the same basic idea of where the relationship will go, you’re just not on the same page when it comes to a time line, then that’s actually Ok. At least you both see the relationship heading in the same direction. If your guy doesn’t see any future in the relationship you’re going to have to face a really tough decision: stay or go. Many women will stay and think that they can change his mind, and maybe you can, but you shouldn’t. Even if you can talk him (or threaten him) into moving the relationship along, is that really the best foundation for a future? You had to force someone to be with you? No so much, it’ll be hard but you are better off just moving on.
Many people find themselves in a great relationship and they want to take things to the next level, whatever that may mean to them. If you want to stop dating and move up to the next level you can follow this advice to win over man you love dating and move things along a bit faster.