21 Signs You’re In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship


Psychological abuse can look like:

1. Humiliating or embarrassing you

2. Constant put-downs

3. Hypercriticism

4. Refusing to communicate

5. Ignoring or excluding you

6. Extramarital affairs

7. Provocative behavior with opposite sex

8. Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice

9. Unreasonable jealousy

10. Extreme moodiness

11. Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you

12. Saying “I love you but…”

13. Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____”

14. Domination and control

15. Withdrawal of affection

16. Guilt trips

17. Making everything your fault

18. Isolating you from friends and family

19. Using money to control

20. Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her

21. Threatening to commit suicide if you leave
It is important to remember is that it is absolutely not your fault. Abusers are expert manipulators with a knack for getting you to believe that the way you are being treated is your fault. These people know that everyone has insecurities, and they use those insecurities against you. Abusers can convince you that you do not deserve better treatment or that they are treating you this way to “help” you. Some abusers even act quite charming and nice in public so that others have a good impression of them. In private is a different story, which is also quite baffling.

If you see yourself in these words, know that there is little hope for your relationship to improve. It would take a monumental amount of insight and motivation for the abuser to change and unfortunately, this is rarely the case. If you are in an abusive relationship, I urge you to get out and with professional help if needed. Often the first step in leaving the abuser is obtaining counseling just to rebuild your esteem so that you can leave. I particularly want you to know that you may “love” this person, but that they do not “love” you or respect you. I assure you that in time you will get over this person if you break it off. You will be making the right decision…no looking back.



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