Congratulations! So, you finally got engaged. It has just been an hour since you exchanged rings, and your relatives and friends have already started bombarding you with all sorts of questions. Well, people always seem more excited about the entire event than the duo themselves. And, this excitement often leads to too many uncomfortable questions. It does not matter to these people that you are still trying to accept this new change in your life.
Usually it is the bride-to-be who has to face most of these questions, as it is she who has to adjust in a new house. The groom-to-be also gets a few uncomfortable questions, but mostly they are pardoned. So, let us look at some of the annoying questions people ask right after you get engaged.
#1. So, when is the D-Day?
Hearing this, you would feel like reacting, “Well, I got engaged only yesterday. So, I need time to breathe as of now!” But, you never speak that out loud of course, unless the date has already been decided. Otherwise, you can just say “Our families are discussing it. Let us see what date is finalised.” Moreover, if your wedding day is more than a year away, then be prepared for another round of questions like, “How did your family agree for such a long courtship?” or “Why are you waiting for so long?”
#2. What did you like about him?
Well, expect this question if yours is an arranged marriage. Overenthusiastic relatives might also ask about the conversation the two of you had before saying ‘yes’. Topics like ‘the first meeting’, ‘his qualities that impressed you the most’, etc. are the most frequent ones. However, the most annoying questions come from the snoopy aunts who boldy ask things like, “Does he drink or smoke?”, “Ladka karta kya hai?” and “Kitna kamata hai?”
#3. Will you work after marriage?
If you say ‘no’ to this, then the follow-up question would be, “What is the use of studying so much?” or “How can you just stay at home all day?” You might feel the urge to reply with simply an eye roll. And, if you think saying ‘yes’ would save you from all this nonsense, well then you are mistaken. People will add another set of questions like, “Oh! Your in-laws agreed?” and “How will you manage work and home together?”
#4. Will you be staying in a joint family or a nuclear one?
Well, some relatives cannot wait to pop this question. Some married friends might also ask you this question, especially those who have had some bitter experiences staying in a joint family or with in-laws. If you agree for a ‘joint family’, then be prepared for a whole range of questions on the kind of in-laws you have, number of siblings your fiancé has, and so much more. However, if you say ‘a nuclear one’, then all you will get to hear is, “Wow, lucky you!”
#5. Where are you going for your honeymoon?
Well, what people really want to know is how much you are going to spend on your honeymoon. You might feel like asking them, “Why? Do you want to come along with me as kabab mein haddi?” But, you simply cannot. So, if anyone asks you this question, then try to fake it a little, and throw around some common honeymoon destination names like “Singapore, Malaysia or Europe”
#6. When will you have kids?
Well, this is another question that will make you cringe. You might want to scream, “That is none of your business,” but you cannot. You can try to shut them up by saying something as absurd as, “We have decided we will have a whole cricket team, and start working on it right away,” while giggling insanely. We promise you this answer will render all your nosy aunts speechless. While they recover, just find your exit from the room, and spare yourself any more such annoying questions.