Women do a few things that ensure a failed relationship, but before you fly off the handle, take a second to look at things from a man’s perspective. You might understand why you and your significant other have quit on each other.
1. You disclose the “dirty details” to your friends.
Women with girlfriends who know more about you than he does are less likely to have a devoted partner. And if you share details of your personal intimacies in your relationship, especially your bedroom activities, you don’t deserve his devotion in the first place.
How would you feel if you knew he was discussing the details of your body or skills with his friends? And please, don’t think we don’t know that you’re doing it. Any guy with a modicum of intelligence knows.
Plus, your friends aren’t really good at hiding the fact that they know more about us than we’d like them to. Interestingly enough, women who are in fabulous relationships tend not to share any details of their intimate relationship with their friends.
Men like to feel that they’re part of an exclusive team; don’t deprive them of that by letting others know what’s going on in the locker room. Instead, do right by your partner and talk to him about how you feel.
2. You think you can change/fix us.
Ladies, we will only modify our behavior if we’re convinced that doing so will make us happier, better men. Any modification to our behavior based on your insistence will not be sustained.
The reality is that you’ll see the best part of us when you start dating us. This is when we’re trying to impress you. From that point on, you’d better hang on because those little habits you sort of don’t care for will later generate a raging wave of resentment towards us.
So, when you consider making a life with a man, look to how his actions make you feel, then listen to his words to see what they make you think of him as a partner.
If his actions make you feel insignificant in his life, cut him loose. And if his words make you think he’s unkind or inconsiderate, head for the hills. Just don’t try to change or fix us — because you can’t. We aren’t broken; we’re just not for you.
3. You bombard us with social media and technology.
Set aside the Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and other social media. Women need to stop creating an alternative universe — a fantasyland — if they hope to have a rewarding relationship.
Honestly, do you really think spending hours reading about other people’s trips to the grocery store, or looking at pictures of people’s pets, or reading recipes you’ll never attempt truly improves your life?
Stop watching how everyone else is living and start writing your own story, and living your own life. Every time we look over at you and you’re on Facebook, we move further away from you emotionally, every single time.
4. You fail to understand and embrace what interests the man in your life.
Not so much what, but why a particular thing interests him so much. If you can understand and embrace his interests before you get too far down the line, you’ll be able to share his passion.
If not, you’ll be embarking on a life where you both look outside the relationship for satisfaction. You’ll be existing in each others presence, but not truly living life together.
For example, his passion may be watching football games on the weekends. You may hate watching football, so why in the world would you commit to a man whose hobby will occupy your entire weekends for a good part of your life? On the flip side, if you understand and appreciate the value of why he loves football, you might have a shot