If you are wondering if you are ready to jump the broom, here are five signs that you shouldn’t get married yet.
You have a hard time putting someone else’s needs before your own.
I am a firm believer in self-care, and I do believe that women often fail to put their needs first. That said, I also believe part of being married is having the ability to put my husband’s needs before mine when it’s necessary. It doesn’t happen often, but sometimes he is in a place mentally and emotionally that requires me to put his needs before mine, and I do it gladly. I believe a commitment like marriage means loving someone enough to put his needs first.
The idea of being with the same person forever gives you anxiety.
Forever is a very long time, but that’s what marriage is about. If the idea of forever scares the mess out of you and has you hyperventilating, maybe you just aren’t ready for forever. It’s a major commitment and one that no one should enter lightly. If you can’t get comfortable with the idea of being with your mate forever, you may not be ready for marriage yet.
You have too many unanswered questions about your mate.
I am not suggesting you shouldn’t get married unless you know every single thing about your spouse. That’s just unreasonable. I have been married for almost eight years and I am still learning new things about my husband. But if you feel like you have critical questions that haven’t been answered, pump the brakes. You should never get married if you feel uncomfortable about how much you know about your partner.
You feel pressured.
If you feel any pressure about getting married, don’t do it. It doesn’t matter if the pressure is coming from your mom or your mate, you should take a step back so you can gain clarity about your own feelings. There are a lot of pressures to get married, but a major decision like marriage should not be made under the weight of stress. Make your own decision in your own time and give pressure the boot.
You think about being with someone else.
There are plenty of fish in the sea, but choosing to marry one of those fish means the other ones are off limits. If you are having a hard time with that and you can still picture yourself with someone else, you likely aren’t ready for commitment. When you’re ready, you will only picture a future with the one you’ve chosen, no one else.