Words are powerful, and sometimes we say things we don’t mean. Is it okay? No, but we’re human and it happens. However, there are certain comments that should never be said in a marriage. Here are 10.
1. “I want a divorce.”
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9)
If you’re married, you already know at some point your marriage will become challenging. It’s guaranteed. Whether it’s finances, family stress, or your “feelings”, don’t let the D-word become a thought or be uttered from your lips. There’s always hope. Look again. Always look again.
2. “Did I marry the wrong person?”
There will be MANY situations that could spark this question: Your spouse could very well change AFTER saying ,”I do”, or you could be having a bad day, and their lack of attention becomes the straw that broke that camel’s back. You married the right person. Now make it work.
3. “I wonder what my life would be like if I were still with ______.”
Who cares? You’re not. Don’t resurrect dead situations.
4. “What’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours.”
Not so. “…and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.”
5. “I could never accomplish that, because I’m married.”
Folks will have you out here scared to jump the broom and have children because “your life is officially over.” Well isn’t it ironic because my book and career didn’t pop off until AFTER I said “I do.” And the cherry on top? My husband is my permanent business partner and strongest support system.
P.S. Once babies come, they’ll be added to the family business as well :)
6. “My spouse is successful, but I’m not.”
Refer to #4. Also, my husband’s success is my success, and vice versa. We work together and enjoy the fruit of our labor, together.
7. “We don’t need counseling.”
Even if you THINK you don’t, you do. If one spouse wishes for the couple to seek counseling, be open to improving your marriage by any means necessary.
8. “I already have him/her, so…”
What did you do while courting your spouse? Continue to do those things and more after the wedding. Don’t let the everyday routine of life kill your romance. Step your game up and keep it there.
9. “Why can’t you be like____ spouse?”
NEVER, ever compare your spouse to someone else’s spouse. Why? It will kill their womanhood/manhood. It’s also a cheap and destructive way to get them to “change”.
10. “I don’t love you anymore.”
How is this possible? Love is permanent. It doesn’t evaporate. Love never fails (1 Corinthian 13:8). Rough patch? Of course. Not feeling the marriage anymore? That may be valid? Don’t love your spouse anymore. False. Rebuke the lie.