My 10-year marriage is on the rocks, and I’m starting to believe that my mother is the cause.
I grew up watching my mother being aggressive toward my father. She often told him what to do, and he did not push back. He was not good with expressing his emotions unless he was angry. I believe he took her stuff and just focused on being a great provider.
By the time I was 9 years old, I was aware of the dysfunction and remember telling myself that I would not engage in the same behavior as my mother.
Fast forward 20 years, and I have become my mother. I talk down to my husband and constantly tell him that he is a weak man because he does not push back. Lately, I have started to question my ability to achieve marital satisfaction. I hate to say it, but I believe that I got it from my mother.
Is this all on me? Or do you think childhood experiences and my mother’s example have shaped how I experience my own marriage?