While it is agreeable that you cannot help who you fall in love with, you may do yourself a favour by bracing up for the challenges that may come with your choice of partner.
Nigeria is a country where people prefer to be reserved when it comes to issues that have to do with love and emotional attachment. Love is expected to follow some laid down rules made by people you might have never met in your life. These things are simply accepted as the norm and used as guidelines over time.
Many Nigerians have their reservations about some clauses in relationships; dating a man younger than you is most likely to be met with raised eyebrows. A man who dates a lady older than him also stands the chance of being openly criticized in the society as they would always make him feel like the lady is old enough to be his sister.
This is not to say that these things are not already happening. Some men are already in the business of marrying women that are older than then by far. They do this for several reasons; money being at the forefront of their moves.
Women who date younger men do it out of limited choice. Ageing fills an unmarried woman with worries as she does everything possible to settle down and have kids. If this involves rolling with men who are younger, they do not mind.
Check out some of the things that may happen if you date men younger than you in age:
1. Being subjected to public ridiculing
If you are about to take a younger man as your beloved partner till death do you part in Nigeria, you should have a rethink. People are bound to talk about you and say all sorts of things while at it. If you have not ‘jazzed’ him, you may be using his ‘destiny’.
Those around you will also call you different names because you have found love in the arms of a man younger than you. But if you can look beyond these inhibiting factors, you may end up having a good time.
2. Problems arising from age difference
Although many people say age should not be a barrier to love, couples who have a wide age gap between them tend to have problems later.
Women particularly may feel cheated out of some activities when the guy starts to think they may not be able to take them out and show them to friends.
3. Mother in-law drama
This is one thing cougars should be prepared for; no woman ever wants her son to get married to a woman as old as her as the mothers will not have the right to act like a mother anymore.
The wife in some rare cases may be older than the mother-in-law and this will cause a drift between them.
Men who date ladies younger than them still have their mothers complaining about their choice of spouse. Imagine what will happen when your wife is as old as your mother and they have to constantly fight.
There is so much fun in doing things that are age appropriate. While dating people are way older may not be something birth out of choice, it is important for couples to carefully choose their partners.
Nigerian men who date or marry women that are older may eventually get tired of the affair and long for something fresher. The men may end up cheating on their so called sugar mummies with younger girls they feel more comfortable with.
5. Different ideas of fun
What may sound like fun to older women is to probably attend parties where a life band gets to play and reign praises on them while entertaining people.
A younger man is most likely to appreciate a night show where Olamide Baddoo or Don Jazzy gets to perform.
Fun is most likely to have different definitions to these people if they are to spend their lives together.
6. Altered life pattern
A woman dating a man younger than her in Nigeria may have her lifestyle altered. Attending parties and living a normal life may not be easy after the world gets to know she opens her legs to a man she is older than.
If at all things get back to normal, she will have to lay low for a while until people get over the shock of seeing her with her boy toy.