Here’s a story of a Nigerian Lady identified as Mary, who said ‘No’ to her boyfriend of three years when he popped the question.
She says she wasn’t ready, and even after giving her boyfriend the ‘please don’t do this’ look when he was about to go on his knees, he still went ahead and popped the question.
Now she’s regretting that she broke his heart, and wants him to come back so she can say ‘Yes’ to his marriage proposal.
Read her below:
“My name is Mary, I heartlessly said ‘No’ to my boyfriend of three years a month ago, embarrassing him before his friends, my friends and some few family members because I thought I wasn’t ready.
I really wasn’t expecting the proposal, he totally caught me offguard on my birthday and I was scared, I gave him all the looks of ‘please don’t do this’ when he dropped on his knees and brought out the ring, but he went ahead to propose.
I said ‘No’, I broke his heart! Every night since then, I keep seeing his eyes as I snatched my fingers from his grasp and mouthed the word ‘No’ repeatedly.
He expected me to jump for joy, scream and dance or even cry for joy but wasn’t expecting the response he got.
I love David, I really do, but I just wasn’t ready for the proposal thing plus I somehow lost it that night and got scared.
David (31) has refused to talk to me, he travelled immediately and won’t get in touch. I have tried to apologize and explain things, but he is not reading my messages. I can’t call him!
I only try through the social media but he is not reading them!
I am sorry, I love him, I want to say ‘Yes’… How do I go about this, I heard he’s gone to South Africa to cool off after the blow I dealt him.
Help me, I am 24… I would rather marry David now than wait for another man.”
He went to south Africa to cool off. Please don’t regret cos something must have made u not to accept in the first place. Ask yourself what he does for a living to have travelled to SA to cool off
You’re a disgrace to yourself, If at 24 and as a lady, you’re not ready, when on earth will you be ready. Now you’re going to another angel you don’t know at all. God will help you o
Well, everything happened for good but you may not understand. firstly you broke his heart to find his trust towards you. if he truly love you and want to marry you he won’t have given up easily. my advice for you is that everything has happened tried to recovered yourself from every incident and face the reality. secondly if he love you definitely he come back for you just that you where nervous when he threw that proposal to you. thirdly gathered your emotional feelings for him aside. well for business that travelled is right to me but cooling off as you said in south Africa is unusual.
my dear Mary, if after 3years of dating him, you were still not expecting such a suprise from him in terms of proposal, it’s obvious you never took the relationship serious. To be candid with you, just take it that the relationship have come and gone. Even if he’ll want to come back for you, it’ll be assumed you cast spell on him and you may have his friends and family members to cope with. We live with the choices we make in life, of which God Himself does not interfere with.
don’t worry continue waiting till eternity, that is good for u, u think u have disgrace him now u are regretting it can’t u accept the proposal then later tell him to give u more time which will make him more understand than what u did.
useless girl opportunity comes but you neglect him, you will regret
if is God plan to join you two together, don’t worry it will come to pass. Davis will automatically come back to you ok . just what you need to do is to go dawn on your knee and pray to God. He knows the best OK…….
I feel sorry for you.go nd apologize I hope he will understand
if is your man, he will come back.
wa gbayii, if he’s her man… he will definitely come bck…
the guy act in DAT way becos you totally disgrace him in front of his frnds and family. my advice to you is if god wishes u to become one, be patience and pray, there is notting impossible in god eye
Not really sure u really love d guy after going out with him for 3 years. If u feel bad for embarrassing him in front of f&f, I understand ur feelings. But dt is not enof 4 u to go back to him by all means. Anyway, if he loves u he will come back, but u r still not sentenced to give him a yes. Follow ur heart.
Well just hope and pray, what you did really hurts but if he truly loves you he will definitely come back and do not turn him down again.
Something makes crayfish bend.
Three years to me was enough time to decipher all you need to know about him. In fact if he hadn’t proposed during this period I would have even suggest to you to look else where. Probably he would have flogged it out behind the scene with you b4 coming out in public. But you’ve decided, something that took you three years and you couldn’t decide, what makes you so sure of your present decision?? just take your time until you’re sure of yourself.
Go to God and ask for a second chance. you aren’t serious to turn down a relationship of 3 solid year. babe u need Jesus.
Right nw he is listening to “love gallore” by SZA ft Travis Scott… Y bother him wen u already said NO…
He is NOT your husband; he was NOT your friend in d first place.
Your husband wld be your friend no matter 50 no from you, even after finally getting yes from someone else, he wld still be a friend, cherishing d old days without regrets.
Be a spiritual person to learn more; attract Jesus Christ
He is NOT your husband; he was NOT your friend in d first place.
Your husband wld be your friend no matter 50 no from you, even after finally getting yes from someone else, he wld still be a friend, cherishing d old days without regrets.
Be a spiritual person to learn more; attract Jesus Christ.
@zico….. I do disagree with you a bit…. every man or woman have got their own break point and everyone reaction to love, rejection, betrayal as well as the lose of a loved one is different…… many folks both ladies and guys feel that they will just wake up one morning and suddenly feel ready to commit to a serious relationship or a partner….. everything in life is a process, marriage is an institution where the training / experience is “On the job training / experience… I hope the two of you make it back together, for everything that you guys face, do pray and ask God for guidance. all the best Mary…
My candid advice to you is to pray fervently… That’s all u need now.
For God to draw his heart back to u.
just put yourself on his shoes,if you’re d one how would you feel infront of your family and your friends it is painful, cooling off you said’ that must be with another girl over dre,so I advise you move on with your life
I don’t think you were in love with him for all that three years. You were only after the material things coming from him but not for your future. Repent and God will give you another chance
Ismail
please let us be remorseful for this girl.I think he will read it hopefully, try to send your texts continuously he might just take a look one day.But try to include prayer.
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you saying no is not a mistake….you said you are not ready and that makes it a clearing matter, marriage is not something you decide to rush in, if you rush in you will rush out…..if truly he is your man to be he will come back for you…. if truly your purpose is the same you will surely end up together…. don’t marry out of pity but marry out of love.
All things happen for good. U gotta believe in yourself and trust in God. Things gonna work out for you, just like planned. This is how u know how much does someone loves u. Don’t give up hope……….
Do not worry much; if you guys are meant to be together, believe me nothing will hinder it although you “fucked up”.
foolish girl…u shouda said “yes” at that very instance. he gave u his heart & u rejected it. why the pride? he’s probably gotten another girl by now thereby ignoring ur calls & texts..this is one of d reason why many girls think all men are the same. I doubt if he’s ever gonna come back to u cos of d scars u left in his ego. you said u weren’t ready. there is no such thing as ready, there is only now. its high time girls like u open ur eyes cos opportunity is a very elusive thing
U really broke the guys heart, but am not here to judge or criticize you, if it’s God’s plan you guy to be together, the knows the best way to do that..
I’m about to propose too and I’m sure she will break my heart like you did to him.
I cannot wait for the day when she realises what she has lost.