Ask yourself the following questions to see if you are ready for marriage, and if the majority are true, then the answer is Yes.
Are you more willing to give than to receive?
Does the final answer always have to be what you consider to be right?
Can someone else count on you no matter what happens? A question we always ask people who say they want to get married is, if your mate were to get sick with cancer, lose all of their hair and could no longer take care of themselves, would you sacrifice to take care of them? Would you clean them if they needed that from you? Would you still love them the same way you did in the perfectly poised state that they are now?
Men, are you ready to be the priest, protector, provider, and leader of your home? Can you take on all of these roles without anger, resentment or even longing for your old life?
Women, are you ready to submit, become the help meet, the supporter of the man placed in your life to fulfill all of the previous roles, without anger, resentment, or even longing for your old life?
Are you ready to work as a team on whatever needs to get done in your home?
Are you ready to mutually submit to one another on certain decisions that need to take place in your home?
Are you ready to be shaped and molded by your spouse into the image of Christ?
Are you ready to give up some of your friends or people in your life who are NOT friends of your marriage, but only want your friendship and may even want to tear down your marriage?
Have you prayed to God to prepare you for marriage? Has He answered your prayers? Is He shaping and molding you into the image of Christ? Are there any things that HE is molding that you know you have been fighting against?
Are you ready to be sexually, mutually exclusive with your mate?
Are you ready to work through your relationship even in those times that you would have normally walked away with someone else?
There are many, many others that I could go on and on with, but these are enough for now for you to truly think about. Many of these questions, people will answer too quickly without even a second thought because they believe that they can. However, really think about these and be honest with yourself so that you can truly prepare for that long-term commitment of marriage that you say you want.
Marriage, by the way, is much different than a long-term relationship. When you’re not married, it is always an option to walk away. However, when you are married my prayer is that you will take the option of divorce off the table, so the option to walk away is no longer there. Are you ready to stay even through the tough times?
Hopefully, these questions have given you food for thought and you want to know more about what marriage looks like behind the scenes so that you can truly prepare yourself for the assignment of marriage. Marriage is an assignment that takes preparation and guidance, and perseverance.
