Ask Jay: I Am Too Shy to Approach Girls. Please Help!!!

Dear Jay,

Please my problem is very complicated. I’m in my early 20s. I am a natural-born introvert. My problem is that I don’t even know how to approach a girl. I shiver even while talking to a girl. Please help because I’m confused.


Dear E.B,
      First of all, I want you to know your problem isn’t complicated. You’re just anxious and only you can change it.
     You need to build your inner confidence because it is your self doubt that makes you uncomfortable around women.
     My suggestion is that you should try to have female friends. Spend time with them, joke with them and laugh with them. Through this, you can demystify the act of speaking to a woman because you will have perfected it with your friends.
    Secondly,don’t approach hostile females. Wait for some kind of signal. If a girl smiles at you or encourages your attention in any way, then you can approach. You’re less likely to be nervous if the girl you approach is smiling at you.
Also, when you start to succeed, your confidence will be boosted and you can approach any woman. I trust that you will do great. I wish you the very best.



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