[Advice Needed] I Am Tempted To Sleep With An Old Man For Money, What Should I Do?

Dear Tosin,

I am a female student in one of the Nigerian university. I have financial instability for the past 6 months. Somehow, I have been coping, but now, the issue is worse. Recently, my room mates introduced me to an elderly man, very old enough to be my dad! We met last Friday and he promised me 250000 Naira – only if I would sleep in his apartment this coming weekend as his wife would not be in the country.
I sincerely need this money for my upkeep and other things. No other help is coming forth! Should I go for it?

——-Anonymous

Dear anonymous,
Its sad that you are in a situation like this. So so sad! But, I want you to understand that our past has a way of catching up with us in the future. If you do this now, you would never be proud of it cos its not right. You would not want your husband to bring in a young lady when you get married too. Respect the queen in you, keep your head up and say a BIG NO! This is just a test, a phase that would pass. There is light at the end of every dark tunnel. You should look for a part time job that allows for your academics. Keep your head up, don’t lose your integrity.
All the best.

Tosin

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35 COMMENTS

  1. My friend,that man might sleep with you n might not even give u a dime. I am a young guy and I know what I am talking. If he has any feeling at all he might just give u like 5k or max 10k..is it worth it?
    ThankGod u even have conscience and seeking for for advice. Don’t do it gurl.

  2. i’l advice u rather get a part-time job dt wil giv u d chance 2 sch n if its not posible let d sch go while u get a wel-paid job then later when u have enough money u go 2 sch, kip ur integrity. Stay cul

  3. Don’t try it at all,firstly,it is a sin,GOD will nt be happy. 2ndly, d man is a deciever,he needs a lady for ritual at dat time,d person may nt die in his house instantly bt within 7days d person is gone. Trust in God,do a part time business 2 sponsore urself.

  4. My dear, money is good,,, buh don’t u think dat’s a deceit 4rm d devil? U need 2 accept Jesus as ur personal Lord n saviour so he could meet all ur endless needs. He’s d maker of all,,,he can’t create what he can not handle or care for. He’s d God of all flesh. Repent n give ur life to GOD today n u will never have any regret…

  5. So sad my dear, money is good,,, buh don’t u think dat’s a deceit 4rm d devil? U need 2 accept Jesus as ur personal Lord n saviour so he could meet all ur endless needs. He’s d maker of all,,,he can’t create what he can not handle or care for. He’s d God of all flesh. Repent n give ur life to GOD today n u will never have any regret…

  6. My dear, money is good. Buh don’t u think dat’s a deceit 4rm d devil? U need 2 accept Jesus as ur personal Lord n saviour so he could meet all ur endless needs. He’s d maker of all,,,he can’t create what he can not handle or care for. He’s d God of all flesh. Repent n give ur life to GOD today n u will never have any regret…

  7. @Luk Adewale, tah! Go n learn how 2 speak English first b4 U giv advice to anybdy. D word is “Go ahead” n nt “Go are head”. Lyk if it were Ur sister, U wud advice her to sell her body 4 money and sin against God and her own self?

  8. What may lie ahead for you may even be more glorious than that small money.what of if no such offer comes your way,will you not be living?No all offer are good.So don’t do it.Furthermore,what may come after doing it may be hazardous for you.Just don’t yield to that temptation.

  9. Day after day, u heard abt beheaded person or persons and yet u can’t use of ur brain becos u’re nt financially stable.. Okoo! U dn’t even imagine 250000 jst 2 make love 2 u.. There’s two options 4 u, 1: say NO and live, 2: go 4 it and if death comes ur way, u have urself 2 be blamed. Finally, remember dt d person who introduced u 2 d man in question, might hv been paid 4 ur life becos herself too needs money, bye!!!!

  10. Chei…..uwa….girl al dis nah advice, jxt tak am siriously….wot if u do am wit d man and get more wahala join d wan wah u get nw, and ur husband go sufaram in future…..girl use ur head nd tink twice….it is wel even in d well

  11. Pls dnt submit urself to the evil man,rmemba wat hapnd 2 male student of UNIPORT earlier this yr afta he slept wt his felow man in Lagos, so I am advicn u 2 put ur faith in God b/c u dnt knw the man’s intention.

  12. please my dear sister don’t do such thing because what u did today will come out tomorrow and i want u to know that the man is not a provider , pray to God and have believe that he is going to do it for u. to dose who have money and can’t spend it for the poor Allah is going to ask u how u spend the money He gave to u in the day of judgement.

  13. @anonymous thanks 4 correctg dat idiot kalld ADEWALE,it s obvious he wld advic hs wif or grlfrnd 2 do sam if he fac a minute dificulty.2 d young lady in questn rememba al dat glitters s nt gold,jst calm dwn&pray 2 God i sur bliv He wld ans u

  14. Dear Anonymous,
    Let me reveal smtin to u. Whenever u c temptation on ur way, knw dat smtin glorious is abt to happen in ur life. However, dat glorious tin would come ur way only if u overcome d temptation. U’ll miss dat blessing if u sin by falling in d temptatn, thereby bringing destruction upon urself. For d reward of every sin is death. Just stay out of dat mess and pray to ur God, He’ll surprise u & u’ll give testimony soon.

  15. I met a married man 3yrs ago that gave me dollars before we even had sex. I converted it and had 50k at hand. I was in my pen ultimate year in school. I dint realy have money problems and i neva dated a married man. He took me to exotic places ive never been to bought gifts on his numerous trips overseas for me. So I fell in love and We later had sex on like the 5th outing in one of the best hotels. All that is vanity. I lost my dignty for money and gifts that goes in a flash. I thank God Today im through with my nysc and recently got a great paying job with God. All you need is God and hardwork. Believe in yourself. The lord is your strength.

  16. What if at d time u r doing it and Jesus comes,what excuse wil u give to him,”what does it profit a man to gain the whole world n lose his soul”,WAIT ON GOD N HE WILL MEET UR NEEDS. DNT DO IT O.

  17. What if at d time u r doing it and Jesus comes,what excuse wil u give to him,”what does it profit a man to gain the whole world n lose his soul”,WAIT ON GOD N HE WILL MEET UR NEEDS. DNT DO IT .

  18. Beloved is so sad to hear this. But I will tell you this just trust in God,your need God now than ever before,who knows if this man av some healness in him. Pls for ask of God,keep ur pride has woman. The Lord ll see you through.

  19. my dear dis world we re is a wicked place what shall it profit u if u sleep with an old becus of money n u lose pride n dignity, all i have to say is be playful to God becus he answered all things.