Sometimes we’re simply too tired from those other responsibilities to even think about having any fun. Other times we may not be in the mood, or just have other things on our mind. And unfortunately, dating our spouse gets pushed to the back burner. I know, it sucks.
Some husbands may be wondering what happened to the woman they couldn’t wait to spend time with, who could probably get up and go on the fly and was willing to enjoy those moments that didn’t need to be penciled into a planner.
Fellas, believe it or not, she’s still in there somewhere. And she is waiting to re-emerge. There were probably a few things that had her hidden for a little while. She may not have known or been completely comfortable with making requests to you for what she needs like more help, encouragement or support.
Or maybe she thinks you’ve changed and you’re the one who isn’t as fun anymore. Whatever the reason, the time has come to date again, enjoy your spouse, and live a little. Here are a few tips on bringing back the excitement in your relationship.
1. Take something off of her plate
There is a large majority of wives who are overwhelmed by their to-do list. The lighter you make that list for her, the more time she’ll have for you. Asking her where she could use some extra hands (yours specifically, or even a housekeeper) will help you best know how to serve her.
2. Plan the dates
Plan really good dates. Women usually enjoy nothing more than new and exciting things and husbands taking charge of the planning.
Take her somewhere she’s never been or doesn’t go frequently enough.
Do something in addition to movies and dinner.
Think walks in the park, picnics, concerts, festivals, a winery, overnight stays in a nearby town, and even cooking, painting and dance classes.
There are so many unique ideas for dates nowadays, it’s always easy to come up with something you’d both enjoy.
3. Make sex exciting again
Do something different when it comes to lovemaking. Buy her the sexy lingerie you’d like to see her in, or do something kinky she may have requested in the bedroom. Set the mood in a way you haven’t tried before.
Candles, rose petals, music playing in the background that happen to be all of her favorite love songs are just a few ideas. It’s important for her to hear how much you want her as well. Remember to make her feel not only special, but sexy and desired.
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4. Act like kids again
Remember to make her laugh. Playing board games, telling jokes and being silly are all things we sometimes forget to do once we get married. Thinking about the things that may have put a smile on her face in the past could definitely aid you in making it happen again.
5. Hang out with other fun couples
Being around other positive couples, who also know the value of marriage could be a lot of fun. Positive energy is contagious. Be sure to pick couples who you enjoy spending time with and who know how to have a good time. Avoid couples who are prone to drama as they could have a negative impact on your marriage.
Remember life is once and marriage is forever. Make the enjoyment of one another a primary goal in your marriage by consistently seeking ways to keep the happy and exciting front and center.
source: blackandmarriedwithkids.com
