The best séx often starts with a make out session. Kissing-just like you did in high school-is actually a hotter form of foreplay than you may realize.
1. Play With Positioning
How you angle your bodies affects the mood of your make-out sesh. If you feel like being in charge, sit on his lap and wrap your legs around him so you’re kissing him from above. Want him to take the reins? Stand up so he towers over you (if he’s taller). A hot horizontal option is to kiss him while spooning-push your butt into his pelvis and grind against him.
2. Sense His Breath
There’s something so sensual about feeling your guy’s breath on your mouth. Lightly brush your lips against his, letting the sensation of his exhales linger on your skin.
3. Remix Your Moves
Changing up your technique builds excitement, so alternate between different mouth moves: Slide your tongue back and forth between his lips or against his gums. Swirl your tongue around his, then take his tongue into your mouth and suck on it the way you would his pénis. Gently nibble his lower lip.
4. Feel the Beat
For an incredibly soulful kiss, put your hand on your man’s heart and smooch in rhythm with his heartbeat.
5. Bring Your Hands Into Action
Kissing isn’t just about the lips-get creative with your hands, too. Seductively play with his fingers as though you were giving his digits a hand-job, passionately rub and grab at his inner thighs, or drag your fingers through his scalp and tug on his hair.
6. Make Kissing a Full-Contact Sport
You can use your own bod to get turned on even more. Pulsate your groin against his. Try straddling him, undoing a couple of his shirt buttons, and then pressing your breasts against his chest. Or stroke yourself in tandem with your kisses, so he can see you getting aroused.
7. Don’t Knock Dry-Humping
Seriously-there’s a reason every teenager in the book does it: Simulating sex (and watching each other get off in the process) makes actually doing it way steamier. While making out, thrust your hips into his, or grind your way up and down his leg.
8. Turn on His Ears
Describe how badly you want him, and what you’re about to do to him. Something along the lines of, “I want you to plow inside of me,” is practically guaranteed to make him blow his load, but even just a moan makes things feel naughtier.
9. …And His Eyes
This might sound obvious, but couples often neglect to make eye contact while getting it on. It’s the quickest, easiest way to instantly intensify things.
10. Put Your Lips Everywhere
Pay lip service to the most sensitive spots on his body. Let your mouth linger on his collar-bone and the soft patch of skin below his underarm. Ears are another big one: Start licking and kissing their outer edges, gradually working your way towards the center.
11. Give Him a No-Job
Now heat things up another notch by kissing him below the belt-balls, thighs, lower abs, perineum…everywhere except his penis. Build the tension by only allowing your cheek and hot breath to casually graze against it.
12. Make Kissing Orgasmic
Try this cool trick: Deeply kiss him whenever you orgasm. Over time, both you and he will develop new neural pathways linking making out with climactic-grade pleasure-so even just a smooch will jog your memory back to the throes of bliss.
13. Skip the Foreplay…
And make kissing itself the main event. It’s a powerful, fun way to connect, but many couples only use it as a prelude to sex-which means if you’re not in the mood to knock boots, you also miss out on smooching. Give him a French kiss instead of a cheek peck when you get home from work, playfully make out while on the couch watching TV, or have a spontaneous, scorching tongue session in the middle of the sidewalk.
