Chika Ike: “I was a victim of domestic violence”

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Actress Chike Ike has been under huge criticism lately after the actress went on Facebook to joyously announced the finalization of her divorce.

The criticism seemed to have hit the actress hard as she sent out an open letter to her fans, telling them about the physical abuse she suffered in the hands of the man she called her husband for five years.

Read Letter Below: –

The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve   that there’s really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence.  I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.

Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.  Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it.  I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost  a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story,I guess that’s why they are ignorant.  I was 20yrs old and  very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe..  So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever.  For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass  jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying  this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.

Hmm, do you all feel sorry for her no?!?

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8 Comments

  • Any way, my dear Chika, it is a pity! It is only you that knows where the shoe u puts on pains you, so my dear, I guess, why everybody lament on that your divorce stuff is because you put it ON AIR and at same time saying that you are PROUD and so HAPPY about it. I mean, it shouldn’t have call to that, no matter what . Again mind you DIVORCE is not our CULTURE. You should have quietly stay, without put it on air, going in detail about it. Take-care . But I wish make with your Hub again.

    • Madam Chinyere! ı hate it when people that are supposedly learned ignore real issues and tie themselves around culture…what do u mean by ‘… Again mind you DIVORCE is not our CULTURE’.??????
      That u did not make a mistake in your choice of a life partner does not mean others didn’t and that ur partner is self controlled doesnt mean other men are! Africans are not cpy cats they are becoming more civilised in handling issues its not a culture change thing…its a life and death issue and when u are 6ft under no culture applies! Also understand that Chika Ike is a public figure and pryers like u would insinuate anything onsocial media that’s why she let u all knw whats happening… Learn to respect other peoples experiences cos no one but God orchestrates our lives…thanks

  • My dear I blaim u for all dat has happen to u expecially the people u call gossipers bcos the said as u make ur bed so u lie on it. U started by telling ur fans that u file for a divorce dat waz wen ur problem started bcos u of all people should know dat u have enemies so deal wit it but next time think b/4 u write or better keep ur problems out of facebook $ tweeter

  • I’m not a man of two many words. So I’m gonna hit the nail on the head,chika listen!If truely U have been domestically violated then u arre right to have left,but if u have made up all these stories in other to have apparent laxity to rock with the men at the echelon of our govt like we heard?then one day u will be ridiculed and u will worth nothing but a cheap SLOT,na so I be,I don’t care whose ass is goored,I’m not a fan of those bunch of ciggarette smoking slots called actresses.

    • Everyone has freedom of movement and we do not judge u when u sneak into students hostels to do your thing so please do not judge Chika and the rest, if u were opportuned u could do worse!

  • My dear good friend chike I realy felt bad and I share ur sorrow in ur recent happening but i will like to advice u dont make any further statement on this issue bcs its only u and ur love one that will reason and understand ur feeling but ur critics will never rather the always give it a different view so remains silent and share it to only those that matters wish best of luck in ur feature endeavor.

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