Open Letter: Igbo man Blasts Tonto Dike For Insulting Igbo men


Sometime last year we published a story of how Tonto Dike was said to have insulted Igbo men alongside another actress during an interview. CLICK HERE TO SEE . Now an Igbo man has written this letter in response.

Dear Tonto Dikeh,

I know you feel beautiful this morning! Well, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. For me, you are nowhere near ‘beautiful’. You are just there. But before I tell you what I really want to tell you, I need to tell you something. There is a lady called Adele.

She is a singer. She sings. I need to explain what a singer means, because I understand that you have no brain at all. Because I hate sugar-coating, I am hated by a lot of people. You are just like me too. I will understand when people hate you, but, seriously, if you think Igbo men are nosy, then, you are right. That is your opinion and you must protect it.

I am an Igbo man. I will defend myself right now. Back to Adele. I will tell you everything about this young lady who transformed herself into something very beautiful in the eyes of men.

I also understand that you don’t know her, but it won’t hurt if I tell you about her now. This is what TIME magazine wrote about her few days ago: “As talented and appealing as she is, few could foresee how utterly dominant Adele would be in 2011: in an era where even the highest-tier musical acts can struggle to move records, her sophomore effort, 21, sold 17 million copies worldwide and spent 16 weeks at the top of the Billboard 200 chart, the longest for any record since 1998′s Titanic sound track.

Combined with sales of her previous album, 19, Adele has topped the U.K. charts for 21 weeks — a feat matched only by the bands Oasis and Queen.” Tonto nne m, Adele is 23. You are older. She is not worried about her future. You are. She is focused about her music.

You are worried that no Igbo man will marry you after you’ve created yourself into a bamboo stick. Truth is that I don’t know you personally, but you’ve created a strong mystery around yourself. People see you as a soul from hell.

They say you’ve sold your soul to the devil. Me, I don’t know where the devil lives, but I think you have. You even went ahead to show us tattoos at your back. I just didn’t understand why you did that. As an Igbo man, I will never marry a woman who has shown the entire world ‘my tattoos.’

It is not good. I am an Igbo man, so I will need to know who snapped the picture. Maybe, your secret boyfriend? This is the reason why we are bad, abi? Adele doesn’t go around seeking attention. She doesn’t pay anyone to publish pictures of her tattoos. Who knows? She may just have a lot of them. I haven’t seen them. I have seen yours.

There is nothing wrong in you tattooing your entire body, but what is my businesswith that? Are you not supposed to be an actress? Of course, I understand that you appear in ”p”  films now? That is good. At least, you are doing what you know best. But to pick on Igbo men? This is very unacceptable.

You insulted a lot of us. This simply shows how unintelligent you are towards anthropology. Men are the same all over the world. Igbo man, Yoruba man, Hausa man. We all treat women in similar ways. We love unconditionally. And we all become nosy when our women start acting like you.

If your father is an Igbo man, dearest Tonto Dikeh, you are a monkey. But I will be sorry if you didn’t say that. I only rely on the media, since I don’t know you personally.

If you didn’t say it, Tonto, I am very sorry. I will publicly apologise. Yet, I believe you did, because you do so many things after marijuana. If it’s not good for your brain,stop smoking. Listen to Adele’s ”Someone Like You” and you will feel good.

I don’t look forward to hearing from you.

Onyeka Nwelue


  1. Why all these fury about ”Tonto”, and why compare her to ”Adele” of all artists ? Aren’t there other better, more sultry soul singers than ”Adele” out there any longer ? How could this so called Igbo man be compering an ”Igbo Lady” to ”Adele” of Great-Britain, of all singers on earth, for what so ever reason ? And who does he think his so called ”Adele” is to most ‘Black-Men” anyway ? She doesn’t mean the least to people like myself at least. Black people with their personality issues again. As soon as you have an issue with your own country siter, you start comparing to someone from a different stock altogether just to take back your pound of flesh. Iferiority complex dey worry some people sha !

  2. i like it alot when people defend their tribe, its shows how proud one is of their heritage. welldone writter. I’ve never been a fan of so many Nigerian actresses since i stopped watching Nigerian films many years ago cos nothg to learn from them. when Nigeria were making films i dont think someone like Tonto Dike will have a spot to play any role plus i dont believe she said those things cos for her to say something like that about Genevieve whose back she cant see even if she stood on d tallest building in d world it. i think d media were just having a nice time with their fabricated stories.

  3. My brothers don’t mind the stupid girl just because one of our brother a footballer, i don’t want to mention names, left her to marry his love, after she was told to stop smoking and other useless life she was living, we all knew her a fool,. and i did not even see any beauty in her, with a wide lips, i really don’t know what makes her feels she is a beautiful girl.

  4. Nde wo my brother, you have spoken well about that lousy whore that called herself Dikeh. Where did she even take that sweet Igbo name from? Don’t mind her,we have made her what she is today now she have the guts to open her dirty stinky mouth to insult we the great.

  5. Well written my brother.
    May be Tonto doesn’t even know our culture. She doesn’t know that Nigerian men, whether it be Igbo, Yoruba or Hausa; we choose wife from ladies that have the qualities of being a wife, not ladies like Tonto Dike.

  6. Tonto is a non conformist and a handful. Her comment however did not deserve all that out burst. Marriage is a serious affair to the Igboman and they uphold there santimonous values. You must not marry an Igbo. If you must then find out what they want if there are. Tonto needs to slow down her style is very scary for the average Nigeria Man Igbo or not.

  7. What are u called tonte or what,which man will want to marry you,you are not a woman.that Edo guy will soon use you n dump u like others have been are angry with lgbo men cos our lovly brother that plays football saw you are not a woman n followed his heart.we know dey see you oooooooo,go kill yourself.FOOL

  8. @Ade…ur comment stinks.first of all.I cudnt understand d point ur trying 2 make here, d writer made himself clear so as tonto…buh u?(Confused)if tonto thinks igbo guys re nosy,dats her opinion,if an igbo guy blast her on dat,still his least pple can see reasons with d two parties…I dnt jst understand why ur picking on d writer.please stick on d topic nd stop bn sentimental

  9. Owenu, you are right, a truly ibo man don’t accommodate woman like Tontoshe is not a wife material at all, she is faking herself cuz no ibo man can ve her as wife, she wanna imitate Nikky Minaj, she deserve ur post if she truly insulted ibo man, let her think of something better for herself; as for music; she no follow at all.

  10. gosh!!!! i can’t believe ds letter was directed to “Tonto”,but seriously my ds insult was too down-to-earth,oh my goodness.!!!
    This shows hw passionate some men cld b or d extend they cld go 2 protect their tribe.

  11. I’m rili suprised that somebody will seat down and waste precious time writting such rubbish and like one of the commenters above noted, it smacks of infriority complex. I needed to read just few lines to realise the “Igbo man” who wrote that crap clearly has issues…he most certainly egotistical(like most igbo men) and a woman beater. I have also noticed that the Igbo folks like being too critical about any constructive critisism made about them, even when it was made by one of their own! No doubt the biafra debacle has made them feel always treatened and too defensive on every matter. The lady only expressed an opinion and if you feel she got it wrong why waste precious time abusing her?? Which shows you yourself has issues! She has made her money and fame tru hard work on the screen and you are being jealous. Comparing her to Adele is the most stupidest thing I’ve ever read! At least she was bold enuf to release her song. Maybe you shud try doing same let’s see how easy it is! Lastly, I urge all you Igbos who like to come on here to say rubbish all the time to please get a life! If you can’t deal with other peoples opinion like an adult with common sense then somtin is wrong with your reasoning faculty.

    • @ KSG & IGBO KWENU, Tnks but next time b proud enof of your identity to write your real name not abbreviations. for those that like telling others to get fucked, how fucked are you, hope you are supper fucked…………………know that tribal issues are emotional, some times they make no sense.