My Ex Is Driving Me Crazy [Advice Needed]

A 25-yr old reader is seeking advice on how to handle the drama he created with the former love of his life who happens to have a son for him.


According to him, he is confused right now and needs advice from matured readers who can reason above the mistakes he has made and help him out. Read his story below;

Dear readers, please I need your advice because I’m very close to doing something terrible to my baby mama. The story may seem a bit crazy but I really need your help.

I met this lady about 3 years ago, she was beautiful, tall and seemed really innocent, but very willing to learn. We hit off on a romantic road and started dating after a little while.

In the course of our relationship, she learned how to smoke from me; I didn’t mind because I’m a smoker, but then she started to overdo it and got addicted to all kinds of drugs, not just cigarettes. Her addiction never really bothered me that much until she got pregnant for me and gave birth to our daughter.

We did our introduction last year and decided we would stop smoking, or at least she would stop since she in now a mother; but she refused to drop her bad habits. I got frustrated, took my son away from her and broke up the relationship.

I’m now dating a good, gentle, respectful and God fearing girl whom I met in February this year, she is the perfect wife material and I intend to marry her. However, my former girlfriend who still has a strong smoking habit is threatening our relationship. She is claiming I destroyed her life because she picked up smoking from me.

She want me to give our son back to her, but I doubt her ability to train him in the right path. Last week, She came with some boys to fight me and they took my son. I’m planning a revenge soon, I’m not too kin on training this boy, because I’m busy with other things at the moment, but I’m worried her drug addiction would put our son in danger. I’ve also considered picking up our boy and taking him to stay with my grandmother who trained me.

What should I do? I’m so confused right now. Do I leave my son with his drug addicted mother or forcefully get him back so my current responsible girlfriend will help train him up? Am I really to blame for my ex-girlfriend’s problems? Please I need only matured advice.


  1. My brother,u made a mistake of teaching her hw 2 smoke,dat was d begining of ur problem…. Dont do something drastic so u wont regret it,just talk 2 her n maybe take her 2 a rehab institute n maybe after dat ur love may recandle again bt above all remember God n ask d holy spirit 4 guardiance.all d best

  2. U met her as a good girl, left her when you shattered her life. She is a heightened reflection of your past and it’s so sad u abandoned her that way. You were nonchalant even when you noticed she was taking it too far, that wasn’t love, you never cared. I say you undo the wrong behaviour she picked from you, find away. That’s your cross. Run away; it will follow you, do something drastic; you pay for it.

  3. My dear brother, let Jesus Christ come in to ur life and transform u. Call on Him and confess ur sins and plead for mercy and beg for forgiveness and I believe Jesus will surely have on you. You must not leave her in that situation. Because u’re the one initiated her into smoking. Since u’re the one initiated her, u’re the same person to bring her out of it. Because if u refuse to do that, u’ll never be happy. Don’t say because u’ve found a new girl and u want to live her in that situation. Ur conscious will never be at peace until she is out of that situation. May the Lord help you.

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  5. Ask for d grace of God. She is ur God given wife, look for her and apologize to her. Settle things together amicably for d sake of your innocent child. am sure beyond words u will both love each other and live happily. I wish you good luck.